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What would you think if you found out a friend of yours did this?

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glycerinegirl · 20/11/2023 11:16

I've name changed because of the specific content here!
I have a friend I've known several years but due to various nuances we don't see one another often. She's lovely and I get on very well with her.

I discovered fairly recently however that she has 12 loo seats, shower curtain/bath mat sets and those rug things that go around the base of the loo (forget what they're called) and changes all of those things for new ones each month. She has some other quirks too, OCD I think? If she realises she's walking in the wrong direction, or she goes in a shop but doesn't buy anything, she has to turn around 12 times before heading off, for example.

This obviously doesn't affect me directly but I do find it a bit odd and just well, who could be bothered doing that?

Anyway, I introduced her to another of my friends recently and said friend really liked her and has invited her out on a date.

I am not sure whether to tell this friend about friend 1's oddities. She'll definitely discover it as they've already planned to do an activity at this woman's house, and she keeps the loo seats etc in a part of the house where they're clearly visible-so I can imagine a sort of 'Why TF have you got 12 toilet seats?' conversation. None of my business? It wouldn't put the second friend off, she's very open minded-I guess maybe so that she doesn't look shocked and hurt friend 1's feelings?

I think this might sound like a troll post. It isn't though!

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ThatWhiteElephant · 21/11/2023 13:19

Annella · 20/11/2023 12:06

Living with OCD is really hard. Your comment “who could be bothered with that” shows that you have absolutely no understanding of it and also makes me wonder if this is indeed a troll post.

OCD isn’t a choice that she can be bothered to make. It’s also not just lining up stuff on your desk or turning circles. It’s living with intrusive thoughts and obsessional doubt. I would try and support your friend. There are talking therapies that can really help. I would focus on trying to approach this sensitively and be a good friend to her, rather than worrying about whether to give your other friend a heads’ up.

This!

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