Can anyone give me their screen time routine for a 12yr old

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My 12 yr old son is screen obsessed. Phone and fifa, he would literally not leave the house if he didn’t have to, and I need to rethink how I organise it. Currently, he takes his phone to school (have finally just about agrees he hands it in to reception each day as he was fiddling about with it in break time and the odd lesson) then he has it to walk home with (probably glued all the way). He’ll have the phone until 7.30/8pm on a weekday and plays fifa on his ps4 after school. None of this sounds too bad written down, but he seems very dependent on it. Drives me nuts. Will sit in the car on a long journey glued to TikTok and you tube. Is late downstairs to meals as he’s ‘just finishing a game’. Picks up the phone at every opportunity and seemingly can’t go longer than 5 mins without it 😥. He has ADHD which doesn’t help with self regulation.

Looking for tips and how others manage this for 12/13 yr olds. Thanks.

He has ADHD which doesn’t help.

Sorry can’t offer any advice as my 15YO DS won’t even look at his phone even when I desperately need to get hold of him!

My kids are awful. We have no screens after dinner - we read and watch family TV.

They don’t have time before school as they leave for the bus before 7. Then when they are home they want to be on it. I am running around all evening with various clubs and when it’s their own club they obviously aren’t on their screen but the other 3 kids at home are.

I think you have to get them on side. My 13yo recently said that he hates being in Gen Z because he’s seen a video of little kids ‘swiping’ in their sleep. I just have to find the energy to nag them all now.

So I’d say lots of getting out of the house, clubs, friends and no screens after dinner. So hard though :-(

Thanks both. Hard isn’t it. Scarletwitch, sounds like you have the opposite issue though! 😁

my 12 yr old dd comes home from school does her homework , packs her bag for the following day,has a shower ,gets changed then has dinner at 6.30 ish then after that she can please herself til around 9 then screens/games/phone off for an hour before she goes to bed at 10. Weekends are busy and we are out and out most of the time but she can please herself on those days.

My 12 yr old doesn't have his own phone. He can have an hour of screen time every night once he's finished all his homework and other jobs. Often he's allowed a bit more time at the weekends if we've got nothing much planned.

No unsupervised internet access and definitely no tiktok!