Hello, my title really. My kids tell me I’m shouting when I’m not. I can’t make a point because they tell me not to shout at them, in my head I’m not shouting.
Sometimes I’ve been out with kids and said something like, please don’t do that and they’ll say don’t shout at me mummy. I’ve seen the look of surprise on people’s faces sometimes (family) when I’ve disciplined the kids but I don’t think I’ve shouted or been snappy but I have.
My mum was always stressed and often snapped at us.
The problem is I can’t see it/hear it when I do, I’m now trying to soften my voice conciosuly. As it’s really upsetting for me to think I’m upsetting the kids eg it’ll be like ‘don’t forget your water bottle’ and they’re like Ok mummy don’t shout at us! But honestly I’m not!!! So so tiring.