Dd10 & ds 8 share or not

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Dd 10 & ds8 share a room. Not ideal but we're in a 3 bed and the Box room was dh office as dc did choose to share years ago. So now we are looking to extend but it won't be for another 12-18months. I think dh should move down to the dining room and use that as an office so both dc can have own rooms asap as dd is definitely ready for some privacy. Dh thinks we should all stay put until we can extend as it will mean we lose a downstairs room and won't be able to sit at table every night as he does have late meetings sometines etc. What's everyone's thoughts?

Your DD needs her own room now. She's 10 which is about the time she will be approaching puberty and want some privacy.

Think it depends on the DC really.
My DD10 and DS7 had always had separate rooms but this year I split from DH and had to move etc. They now share a room and they absolutely love it!

I do intend on them having separate rooms eventually but I was really surprised at how well they've managed. I know DS finds it especially comforting having ÐD in the same room.

What's the set up downstairs? Do you have a separate living room?

So we have a separate living room, the dc are really close and gave loved having a shared room- they did have they're own but chose to share. Dd now 10 and year 5 I think she wants her space. Ds8 will be upset though....

My feelings exactly

I think it’s still ok for now, but I would have a deadline set for them to have their own rooms within 12 months. Is there a way to create your DD her own little private space? Maybe a curtain around a top/bottom bunk kind of thing?

I think she deserves her own space come this age.

I'd be led by your DD. If she wants to move now then do it. Otherwise waiting 12 months sounds ok, 18 months pushing it maybe. As long as she has her own room by the time she starts high school I think it's ok.

I think you have to be prepared that the situation may suddenly change and its not ok. And to have a back up plan if it does.

Alternatively is the room big enough for some sort of divider?

She has a high sleeper in middle of room with a board dwn the back which is separating the room Into 2 a bit. So she has den under bed with desk etc so private area

So the choice really is between 18 months with some nights not sitting at the table, or 18 months more of them sharing, as you wouldn’t be losing the dining room permanently?

Agree be led by your DD, but proactively so - don’t wait until it becomes an actual issue for her.

If she hasn't already she could very well start her periods sooner than in 12 -18 months so I would give them their own rooms now. It would be cruel to make her share at this pivotal time just to make your DHs life easier and appease her brother.
She needs this, put her first it's only right.

Thanks all, i feel its time and I would have gated to share a room when I started my periods and I do feel like she's starting puberty so it's the right time. We will move dh to dining room for now and extend asap.