Thank you gift for saving my child

[ConfusedandLostt]

The other day my youngest badly choked at school. It was traumatic for everyone involved and without a particular member of staff, god knows what would have happened.

Now the shock has worn off I'm looking for something to gift to this person as a thank you. They really went above and beyond but I'm drawing a blank as to what is appropriate.

Any suggestions?

How scary for you. Glad your dc is ok now.

A voucher for a meal in a nice restaurant? Bottle of wine and nice chocolates?
Hamper?

I'm a paramedic so have had lots of thank yous over the years but absolutely nothing beats someone holding my hand, looking deep into my eyes and saying a heartfelt thank you.

Awww, what amazing news. Hope your child is OK now.

How about a High Street voucher - for whatever you can afford - and a bunch of roses from Morrisons where they're about £6. Or a bottle of booze?

I’d do something specially homemade but personal from your child. Plus a nice card. Will mean a lot more than something generic and bought.

A heartfelt thank you in person. Maybe a hamper for the staff room .Am glad your child is ok . Choking is my biggest fear ! 4 year old grandchild still not allowed grapes ,nuts etc

I think I might have over done it with the deep into their eyes and crying my heart out thank yous...

No matter how many times I've said it, it doesn't feel like quite enough if you know what I mean?

@Lovemykidywinks honestly, mine too! I cut grapes into quarters, hover while they're eating blueberries etc. It terrified me before and now I'm an actual wreck over food.

A TA at my school phoned an ambulance from her own phone when a child collapsed. She was told off by the Head for not following procedure and going through the Office. The child's mother sent her flowers and a lovely letter - I think that would be ideal in your situation.

@ConfusedandLostt how scary! what was DC choking on??

All adults in a school setting should be able to deal with a child choking.

if it was me, your sincere thank you would be more than enough. Your child not dying would be MORE than enough for me!!

you don't need to buy anything!

there's no perfect gift. A drawing from your child (if not forced) or a small bunch of flowers are probably the most universally appreciated gift.

How terrifying for you and everyone involved, so glad your dc is okay.

I work in a role that often involves helping people in dire medical situations. Honestly we very rarely even get a thank you so just that would be amazing. Flowers and a card would be appropriate I reckon. Nothing will ever feel like enough to you as obviously your DC's life is completely priceless.

This is my greatest fear! Thank heavens your child is ok. What did your child choke on? My DC’s school doesn’t allow any grapes, tomatoes, blueberries that are not sliced but even then I’m still worried!

I once gave emergency first aid to a neighbour's child and the parents sent me a card with a lovely message of thanks, which I very much appreciated.

Flowers and a card to teacher and a letter to the Head to commend teacher for their efforts in saving child

What about a nice plant, from M&S, Waitrose or garden centre, placed in a ceramic plant pot which you could have both painted in a pottery painting cafe. Or a personal mug from the pottery painting cafe

As always when buying a gift for someone you don't know well, consumables are safest.

Something your child can make/personalize. A letter from you to the school to commend them so it is part of their official record.

ALL the teachers I know (several due to DH job) would much rather have wine and vouchers!

Any home made food usually goes straight in the bin because of hygiene concerns.
Mugs straight to charity shop.

OP, I would go flowers (if not near any holiday breaks, as teachers are first on the plane for a sunshine break) and a voucher for a nice meal or posh shop. Or several billion glue sticks

And yes an official email thanking them is really valuable.

I agree with PP who said "a heartfelt thank you" and if you want to do something extra, a bottle of anything you think appropriate (wine, liquor, etc they can use for holidays or gifts). I remember every life saved and every thank you, and its the thank yous that mean the most.

Handwritten thank you letter. Would you consider a donation in their name to St John’s Ambulance so that people in your community who wouldn’t have known what to do can be trained?

I agree with a handwritten, heartfelt thank you letter and maybe some flowers.

A letter to the Head and/or Chair of governors commending the staff member might also be nice.

And if you really want to do something more substantial, I think the suggestion of a donation to St John's Ambulance or similar is a great idea.

(wanted to edit but can't s adding...) Obviously I mean thank yous over gifts, saving lives obviously meant the most, even those without ever hearing anything about it later. Glad your child is well!

Volunteer at school. That's a level of gratitude beyond price.

Flowers and a card