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2.5 year old doesn’t call out for us when he wakes

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mummaworries21 · 16/11/2023 07:40

I need some advice on this please mums! My 2year old wakes up and doesn’t ever call out for us. I wake up (between 6.30&7) and 95% he is awake in his cot just laying there or singing to himself. I never really thought anything of it but now everyone I mention it to makes a big deal about how there kids always call or cry out for them and now I’m worrying something is wrong with my lb. Any help/advice or just someone that has a little one that does or did this please?? From a now very worried Mumma

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determinedtomakethiswork · 16/11/2023 07:42

I would have loved that! Mine went from 0 to 100 in a split second.

YouAndMeAndThem · 16/11/2023 07:42

My kids were both like this, can happy chill out and sing away to themselves for ages before they start getting bored! My son especially, he is 2, and often wakes about 7am, but will stay in bed until 8 easily, just babbling, singing etc. then he will start shouting put light on rather than getting upset or wanting up! I wouldn't worry!

leafinthewind · 16/11/2023 07:42

He's content. He can hear you moving around. You always come for him, and he trusts you. He knows you'll be there soon. All of this is good.

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MyCircumference · 16/11/2023 07:42

that is lovely that he is content and singing to himself
sounds totally normal.
enjoy

horseymum · 16/11/2023 07:43

My Ds didn't even get out of bed when he could. He obviously just enjoyed a bit of peace in the morning when he came round. Nothing wrong. Nice he wakes up happy.

wideawakeinthemiddleofthenightagain · 16/11/2023 07:45

DC1 never did. She'd wake up and chat to her cuddly toys or "read" her books. At that age, she moved to a bed and would wait until her nightlight changed before getting up and playing with toys in her room and then coming in & out of our bedroom.
DC2 would start calling for us as soon as his eyes began to open. This carried on even once he was out of a cot and in a bed.
If you child is otherwise meeting all of their targets and is secure in their attachment (so knows that you would go to them if they called) then I wouldn't worry.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 16/11/2023 07:45

My 3yo does this most mornings and has done for a while. When we go to her, her face lights up and we get all the cuddles so it’s not that she doesn’t want to see us.

HavfrueDenizKisi · 16/11/2023 07:45

Both my DDs were like this when young. It's really nothing to worry about. They've grown into lovely bright teens. Please stop panicking about nothing and comparing your kids to others.

Bubbles254 · 16/11/2023 07:46

Mine didn't call out at that age either. My advice is to enjoy it whilst it lasts. We had about a year of peace before he started jumping out of bed and coming to find us at 6am

Nomorecoconutboosts · 16/11/2023 07:47

Just enjoy having a fairly chilled baby
my first was like that and also slept well
some friends seemed to have an issue with it, almost envious so we didn’t go on about it.
Perhaps your friends are having lots of early starts and genuinely can’t understand that very occasionally some babies are like yours!
my second wasn’t like that!

Don't mention it to everyone - I know you don’t mean it in a smug way but it’s likely to be perceived as smug! If asked about sleep
patterns we were just pleasantly vague

organicapricot · 16/11/2023 07:49

Shows he has a good attachment. Feels secure and safe and knows you will come for him. I'm sure if you pushed it he would let you know though!

AHeadForHeights · 16/11/2023 07:49

Mine didn't either and it was ace. They are 12&13 now and have never woken up shouting for us, unless poorly, and never came to our bed. They were happy to sing, chatter and play with their toys until we came for them.

PearlClutzsche · 16/11/2023 08:24

organicapricot · 16/11/2023 07:49

Shows he has a good attachment. Feels secure and safe and knows you will come for him. I'm sure if you pushed it he would let you know though!

This. He’s happy, secure and knows you’re around. Also probably a pretty chilled sort of character!
You’ve obviously done a great job with him.

Aria2015 · 16/11/2023 08:28

Both of mine were like this at that age. They'd wake and just chill and maybe sing. I think it's just that they're content and also not everyone I raring to jump out of bed! I know I'm not. I've had mine fall back asleep after being awake for a bit too, so sometimes they've still got a bit I sleep left in them. I honestly wouldn't worry. There's one thing you can trust in a 2-year-old, and that that they'll soon let you know if they're not happy!

RainbowCrayons · 16/11/2023 09:45

Mine is the same especially when he was younger, now he’s 4 he will sometimes wander through to find me but other times he’s happy to lay there and sing. I think it’s personality, and chance rather than anything I’ve done, good or bad. I know if I had another they will be one of those kids that never seems to sleep!

Ragwort · 16/11/2023 09:48

Mine never did either, he was happy to play in his room, always been very confident and independent and a great sleeper he's early 20s now and working on the other side of the world. He was as far from a 'clingy cuddly' child as you can imagine - but he still messages me every day with his news ...
Be happy you've got a relaxed, independent child.

Ostryga · 16/11/2023 09:52

Aw it’s a good thing! He knows you always come to him so he has no reason to worry. You’ve made a lovely environment for him.

I always went to Dd but she was furious I wasn’t there the millisecond she opened her eyes 😂 now she’s 7 the first thing she does is come find me and ask to go downstairs if I’m still in bed, or says good morning if I’m up and about.

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mummaworries21 · 21/11/2023 23:14

Thank you for all your lovely replies! It’s made me feel much better :)

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bellsbuss · 21/11/2023 23:34

2 of mine were like that and the other 2 would scream and shout out for me , never DH always me.

Re3291 · 22/05/2025 12:03

Just wondering how your LO is doing now? Based on your other posts, my daughter is exactly the same. I'm also looking for answers.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 22/05/2025 12:25

mummaworries21 · 16/11/2023 07:40

I need some advice on this please mums! My 2year old wakes up and doesn’t ever call out for us. I wake up (between 6.30&7) and 95% he is awake in his cot just laying there or singing to himself. I never really thought anything of it but now everyone I mention it to makes a big deal about how there kids always call or cry out for them and now I’m worrying something is wrong with my lb. Any help/advice or just someone that has a little one that does or did this please?? From a now very worried Mumma

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