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Tracking online status on what's app

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Just12345 · 15/11/2023 20:08

So a lovely friend of mine has got herself into a situation with a new friend that has escalated beyond the realms of normal friendship and is frankly now bordering on stalking behaviour . The new friend let's call her Sarah is now relentlessly contacting her many many times a day.

The situation is really hard but one of the weirdest things about the constant calls is they are always also the minute my friend enters what's app. She doesn't even need to click into a single message the minute she's in what's app her phone starts ringing with Sarah.

Now I know you can see someone's online in a conversation but this is now happening every single time she goes into the app so
Unless Sarah is literally staring at her conversation with my friend constantly which seems unlikely we were wondering if there is another way she has seen she's online? Can you stalk someone via what's app like that?

Has she got some kinda app tracker? It just seems so much of a coincidence? And if Sarah is using some kind of app to tell is there anything my friend can do to block it?

The wider situation is being dealt with and before anyone suggests it unfortunately due to circumstances my friend cannot just block her ( at the moment )

Anyway any advice on the what's app stalking would be welcome

Thanks

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minsa · 15/11/2023 20:14

I'm not too sure but I do know you can change your privacy settings to where people can't see if you're online or your last seen.

FireandBrimstone · 15/11/2023 20:15

She can change her settings so that WA doesn't show when she is online.

FireandBrimstone · 15/11/2023 20:16

Instructions here:

Tracking online status on what's app
threeisquiteenough · 15/11/2023 20:16

Edit settings so no one can see when online

If she can't block, she can mute so at least she is not getting the notifications constantly

Whattodowithit88 · 15/11/2023 20:18

She must just sit there constantly watching to see when she comes online, as far as I know, that’s the only way.

Pinkitydrinkity0 · 15/11/2023 20:19

Yes definitely hide online status and mute her! I don’t think such a tracking app exists but you never know 🤔

Just12345 · 15/11/2023 20:19

So she already has last seen turned off and no read receipts but I will get her to re do it and make sure online does not show

I'm just not sure she's physically seeing the online status however; It feels like she's almost getting a notification the minute my friend opens what's app . Would that be possible?

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MinnieL · 15/11/2023 20:20

As the comments have said, get your friend to change her settings so that it doesn’t show when she’s online….

Just12345 · 15/11/2023 20:20

Whattodowithit88 · 15/11/2023 20:18

She must just sit there constantly watching to see when she comes online, as far as I know, that’s the only way.

And she has a job and a does do other things which is what makes it so strange. I can't imagine she is watching it constantly but then again maybe she is

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googledidnthelp · 15/11/2023 20:21

Last seen doesn't stop you from
Being shown as online.
So as unlikely as it seems she could
Literally be watching and waiting

MinnieL · 15/11/2023 20:21

There’s no way to get a notification as soon as someone becomes online on whatsapp unless she’s using some dodgy app to do so (I doubt that’s a thing)

WhamBamThankU · 15/11/2023 20:24

Sounds like she's staring at the conversation with your friend until she comes online. There's no way to stop yourself showing currently online.

ItsMeNotTheProblem · 15/11/2023 21:11

There are apps that can notify you of someone being online on WhatsApp, I only know because my ex used one to track my movements and accuse me of some nonsense because he could see I’d been online at 2.56am etc.

The only way I could stop it was to delete my account from WhatsApp and I’ve never set it back up with my number.

I don’t want to name the one used as don’t want to give weirdos any ideas but it is possible.

Just12345 · 15/11/2023 21:12

ItsMeNotTheProblem · 15/11/2023 21:11

There are apps that can notify you of someone being online on WhatsApp, I only know because my ex used one to track my movements and accuse me of some nonsense because he could see I’d been online at 2.56am etc.

The only way I could stop it was to delete my account from WhatsApp and I’ve never set it back up with my number.

I don’t want to name the one used as don’t want to give weirdos any ideas but it is possible.

Thank you! I thinks it's an app we are worried about ! I guess there is no way to tell if that's what she is using

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ItsMeNotTheProblem · 15/11/2023 21:15

I would’ve never known if my ex hadn’t sent screenshots from the app with my activity when I denied being online (genuinely didn’t remember opening WhatsApp at the time) and as far as I’m aware there’s no way to see if someone has set this up on your number.

Not much help I’m afraid OP, I’d tell your friend to get rid of the whole app if possible.

MinnieL · 15/11/2023 21:18

WhamBamThankU · 15/11/2023 20:24

Sounds like she's staring at the conversation with your friend until she comes online. There's no way to stop yourself showing currently online.

Incorrect. You absolutely can no longer show whether you’re online. Someone’s already posted a screenshot of how to do it…

MinnieL · 15/11/2023 21:19

It doesn’t really matter whether or not the person is using an app because you have no way of proving it. If your friend doesn’t want to block the person then I’d suggest removing the online availability. It’s probably best to cut contact or distance herself away from this other friend as she seems very full on and intense

Just12345 · 16/11/2023 20:57

Thank you all so much! Update she was absolutely watching her status . Today she called her multiple times and then kept texting asking if her phone was broken as she hasn't been online

The calls are still coming but my friends feels way less stalked knowing she can't see when she's online

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