Expecting too much?

[mintchocchip86]

DD is in Y1 at school and had a difficult reception year with another child who was very controlling, restricted friendships and was also physically hurting DD. The school dealt with this and the 2x reception classes were mixed for Y1. DD was separated.

Two weeks into Y1, DD was deliberately targeted in the playground by this other girl and was pushed, resulting in her falling and hitting her head on the playground. The incident was witnessed by some older children.

I met with DD's class teacher following this incident and she was very supportive and put in place a number of measures, which included regular playtime check ins and it was agreed given the history, DD would be better to be kept separated from this other girl. DD didn't really want to play with this other girl anyway as she was being hurt and having horrible things said to her.

Our class teacher assured us that the teacher of the other girl would be speaking to the parents to make them aware of the incident. We assumed this had all been dealt with until the weekend.

DD's best friends mum contacted me to say that she had received a message from the parent of the girl who had hurt DD saying she was very angry and didn't know why our DD was no longer playing with her DD.

We had parents evening last night and we raised it there and we were told it would be looked into. AIBU that if a child is deliberately targeted and receives a head injury, the child who has done this should at least expect their parents to be told of this situation?

Another parent has also made numerous complaints to the school about this same child and again, nothing appears to have been done. Their child is being hurt daily and the teacher doesn't appear to be acting on any of it or talking to the parents of the child displaying this behaviour.

I am reluctant to let this go given DD hurt her head. I thought the school had a duty of care to safeguard children from this sort of behaviour and to also sort out bullying?

The parent is not all approachable and we want everything documented through the school.

Definitely push back on this! Call the school every day if necessary. Send emails too since these create a written record. Do not let it rest, since every child should be able to go to school safely. Ask to speak to the safeguarding lead and ask for a plan to keep your child and others safe from the girl who is hurting them. Mention the things you want to happen and find out why they aren't. If you don't get any action, ask for the head and if that doesn't bring results contact the governors.