Stone age parenting better for babies

[Phanta]

https://nybreaking.com/stone-age-babies-had-better-parenting-than-today-infants-received-care-for-nine-hours-per-day-from-up-to-15-different-caregivers-study-finds/

I've seen quite an articles on this recent study and found it really interesting on how it contrasts on today's parenting.

I've seen so many comments on this forum that mums should:

Do all the night wakings while on maternity leave
Do all the housework on maternity leave
Not leave their baby with anyone for a break
Not go back to work
Not put their baby in a nursery
That babies and toddlers don't need socialisation and the only relationship that matters is the one with their primary caregiver until they are 3
That they should love every second of motherhood while under this enormous pressure.

If the above works then that is great but while I'm not saying we should all live in the jungle in tribes but I do find the article interesting on how modern parenting can at times expected to be done in isolation.

I know family structures and modern life mean support isn't there for many people and I don't really know the solution to that apart from more flexible working and more investment in good quality childcare. But I do think as parents we shouldn't feel or be made to feel guilty for wanting a rest, a break or to have other people look after our babies.

The babies in the study aren’t “being socialised” they are having their needs met by other people who are part of their extended family. They were responded to within seconds of crying, held for pretty much the entire time and this is entirely different from modern society putting babies into childcare or car seats whilst they are pushed around shopping centres.

It was good to see the support network for mums and that time for them but it was also clear the baby’s priorities were met and fulfilled first and foremost. Which is the main thing. This focus on Mums having a break and Me Time etc is the wrong priority. Being a mum means putting the baby first… hard though that is.

four babies don't have any of their needs met if their mum has a nervous breakdown from doing it all. Modern society is more isolated and there aren't extra pairs of hands to muck in.

Well, it isn't about having a break, it was when life was hard and every able adult needed to help with the work, so baby tagged along or stayed with older/less able adults etc.

The women were working mothers and their babies were in childcare... They had to look after baby AND do the "housework", but we loved in more community groups.

The modern problem is our inability/reluctance to talk to the people living 6 feet away from us, and much rather use the person in the nursery 3 .Iles away. This is only happening because of our modern world providing cars, phones, internet etc we don't need to rely on our neighbours,we have parents living 12 miles away,and we can use them, we work 40 miles away, so need to get there instead of working in the home and local community etc.