Colleague was aggressive towards me.

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I'm really upset about a colleague. We had a. Disagreement and then she stormed off. I was upset. Awhile later she came back to get something from near me and she leaned into me with her whole body and put her face right in mine and spoke to me aggressively.

I was really upset, more upset about that than the original thing we had a disagreement about. I have spoken to my manager but not sure if anything will be done.

Has anyone else been in a similar position before and what was the outcome. I think id just like an apology and to know that, that isn't acceptable behaviour.

Was it a personal argument or to do with work?

To do with work. Our managers are dealing with this issue and will be resolved soon. However the way she has spoken to me is the bit I am more upset about.

No wonder you are upset, that is absolutely out of line. Did other people witness it? I’d expect a warning for that type of behaviour and a clear message to her that it won’t be tolerated.

Let management deal with her.
Nasty piece of work. Hopefully you will get an apology and her a first warning.

Awful behaviour. What makes you think it won't be dealt with properly ?

What did she say? Did she threaten you?

Because apparently "gets away with murder" well that's what my colleagues have told me and management just let her get away with it.

Speak to your manager

I'm still so upset about this. I can't even sleep.

I've had a quick meeting with my manager today and they said that she has reported that I was rude to her and that upset her massively. I certainly wasn't all sweet but I was stern and direct. She has played the victim card. She hasn't even mentioned her aggressive behaviour. My manager said we will have a meeting about this tomorrow and hear my part.

Bullet point some notes

Explain there was a disagreement, it was heated, acknowledge your part and accept that accountability. Go further to explain you've reflected and how you'd handle the situation differently if it arose again.

The second part was unnecessary on her part and took a disagreement that could have been resolved amicably to a level where you felt intimidated and upset.

Look at your policy on Bullying.

They haven't even acknowledged her behaviour and nothing will even be happening. We need to clear the air between us and that's it.

Bump

Does your work have an HR department?

Yes they do! I spoke to someone this afternoon and they have said that I should take it up with my managers!