What is a reasonable timeframe to reschedule this first date?

[Celia24]

Last month I saw a guy I know from Twitter on Tinder, liked him & he liked me back. He actually asked me out in the first message but I was going on a 2 week trip so we scheduled for when i was back.

The date, time & place all agreed then 48 hours before he contacted to say he'd been really looking forward to seeing me but his close friend's dad had died and he was going to Belgium to support them at the funeral, so would miss the date. He asked if I'd consider still meeting with him when he gets back. I sent my well wishes & said yes to that. He liked the messages, heard nothing since 4 days ago.

So how long is reasonable before it's not a serious reschedule?

We've known each other on Twitter for over a year and he's always seemed decent and interested in me. But that's only online.

I’d think about a week after the message is about reasonable in the circumstances

About 2 weeks ago 😂 get rid!

hmm yeah that's what I'm thinking @MintTrackies

I can only take his reason at face value and believe him. But I think much more than a week doesn't look good.

I'm actually going on a date with another guy tomorrow who I feel less excited about but have a good rapport with him, so we'll see I guess!

I'd take it at face value, very odd and convoluted lie to tell otherwise.

For the purposes of drawing a mental line, I'd call it now and move on. Give the other bloke a real chance.

If twitter guy gets back in touch then I wouldn't rule him out but it's all been very casual so theres no momentum and it's not personal if it drops off completely.

I agree it would be an alarming lie @Catandsquirrel

I admit I'm disappointed. More disappointed than a random on Tinder because I feel I know him better and like him.

I know the other guy deserves my full attention for the date so he'll get it 🙂 the fact he planned it and is showing up is the first plus!

I couldn't be bothered with all that guess work.

My dh asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and I said yes, it was simple and I never would have sat and wondered where I stood or when to call, just call, and if you're not sure where things stand, ask.
Anyone I couldn't be that straight to the point with wouldn't be for me.
I don't understand why people make life so complicated.

Well @notverychristmasy if his reason is correct then it's a time of bereavement & a bit sensitive.

To be fair he did ask me out & set up the date asap so the cancellation was a surprise. I'll give it until the end of the week & then leave it. And (hopefully) enjoy my date tomorrow!

The ball's in his court really, I guess. Wait and see if he gets back in touch once he's back but don't put your life on hold in the meantime.

@DatingDinosaur I actually had a look on his Tinder earlier & he is 600 miles away. So I reckon that sounds about correct!

I'm excited for my other date tomorrow. It may not go anywhere and that's that. Or it might lead to a second date.

I think I'll be thinking 'what if' if I don't get to have a date with the other guy when he's back - say because i keep seeing the other guy and then he wants exclusivity. But I'm hugely jumping the gun, need to see how the next weeks pan out.

As this was for a first date I wouldn't worry about the 'what ifs' at this point. If the other guy wants exclusivity in anything less than a month you should run a mile from him anyway!!
I suggest you set yourself a future date to review the situation e.g. in a months time you will see what the situation is with either guy and then take a call then as to what to do, rather than overthinking about a guy you haven't even met!
Remember you could go on a first date with him and find you have zero chemistry! Hope that helps xx

Hey @MissDella well a quick update - I met the second guy I was less enthusiastic about & the date was fine, good fun even for a way to spend an evening - but nothing beyond that. At times felt he was negging me a bit and said some odd things. Wants to meet again but I'm not bothered.

Then the other guy who I am enthusiastic about got in touch when he got back and we're going out next weekend. I still have a good feeling about him but guess we'll see 🙂

You're right about chemistry. It's hard to stay calm when you're excited sometimes!

Great news that guy no.1 has come back! Definitely hard to stay calm ... I've been there!
Hate the negging from guy no.2, obviously no self-awareness!