Who wants to join my pity party?

[itsmeafterall]

Morning all.

I'm feeling very sorry for myself today and, although there are much bigger problems in the world and I know I need to just get on with it and be grateful for the many, many good things in my life, right now I need a bit of a wallow. Wondering if anyone else wants to join?

I'm normally a high-energy glass-half-full optimist but I've had fucking covid for weeks and still feeling shite. Exhausted, grumpy, unable to concentrate. We are having work done in the house and as nice as the builder is, I saw last night that the (very expensive) tiles he's put up and grouted aren't straight and one has a big chip. So he's gonna have to (noisily, messily!) redo. The house is a messy, dusty place and it's stressful. All I want to do is sleep in peace.

My normally absolutely lovely DH is being an arse. I asked him to leave my washing at the weekend as he has a habit of unwittingly spoiling some of my clothes. He went ahead anyway and shrunk something. I told him I was pissed off and he has been sulking now for 2 days. I just can't be arsed to start a reconciliation conversation (which is our usual pattern in the very rare circumstances this happens). So that's adding to it.

Work is being nice about my prolonged absence but there's a big important face to face meeting today that I just can't get to. And my position there is a bit at risk right now, so timing is shit. The dr was supposed to ring yesterday re a fit note and didn't.

My DD was supposed to be having major surgery but owing to a huge admin error this long awaited and important procedure now isn't happening and we don't have a new date. So I'm supporting my DC through that which is hugely stressful for them.

I've done nothing for Christmas and finances are tight. And now I'm gonna have to buy even more of the expensive tiles.

Gardening is my usual happy place but I've got no energy and it's too wet and windy.

So that's my list of petty, inconsequential, not-big-in-the-grand-scheme-of-things (mostly) woes. Petty stuff, most of it but all together is making me feel uncharacteristically fed up. I'd normally be raging at some of this stuff but, frankly haven't the energy.

Anyone else got comfort to give, petty woes to share so we can, hippopotamus-like wallow together?

And please, if you feel in shit-slinging mood or feel the need to tell me to pull myself together, please move on and don't comment 😉 or I might manage to summon the rage-beast after all 😬.

This thread is purely for wallowing for those who need it. 🦛

I hope the COVID fog clears soon OP. I imagine a lot will feel better when the tiredness passes. The builder should buy the replacement tiles, not you.

I'll join you... sorry you're having a rough time. I'm onto my second week of morning sickness and feeling pretty useless at the minute. I feel like a rubbish mum to my toddler because I feel so lousy and unmotivated. Husband is really hating his job at the minute and has done for a few months so is looking to move jobs but I'm part time and I worry how we'll cope financially especially with Christmas coming up. We also have a rat problem and it's getting us both down. We'd love to move but can't really for a few years at least until we save a good amount to cover costs.

Having said all that I'm grateful for my health and that I have a roof over my head and my gorgeous boy was trying to give me a cuddle whilst I was throwing up into the toilet this morning, bless him. I have a lot to be happy and thankful for but it's ok to feel a bit rubbish about it all sometimes and that's ok!

I’m with you. I’ve also been unwell for a really long time now and I’m just so fed up with it. DP has been amazing and has been trying to do the jobs of both of us, but he can’t carry the load all on his own. The house is a constant mess, I’m a constant mess and all I want to do is lay down. Work have been really supportive but I still have that horrible feeling of guilt for everyone who’s taken on my share, and dread of actually going back whenever I do. I also don’t know how much paid sick leave I have left.

Let’s wallow together.

Oh I'm sorry OP that sounds really hard. Hopefully soon you will get a break it's so true it never rains but it pours.
Sorry for the others feeling ill hard as it is sometimes you have to just say fuck everything else and concentrate on getting better.

We are trying to sell (we are under offer) and buy a house. I know im lucky as the housing market isn't great and im trying not to stress but at each stage im thinking the worst.
I've not been looking after myself and I've put weight on and just generally feel exhausted and crap and it's all my own doing.
Today im making some spicy chicken pho and a slow cooked beef curry with loads of veg in and I WILL stay away from the sugar!

Hello fellow wallowers.

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter morning sickness is just horrible. Has it with my first and lost weight in my first trimester as a result 😮 it gives you that 'just stop the world I want to get off' feeling

@DrinkingMyWaterMindingMyBiz my sympathies to you. Illness is just horrible. I see people on here living with fibro and other conditions long term and don't know how they do it. It's just that horrible exhausted draggy feeling that makes everything so hard.

@anon2022anon he probably should but I just don't have the energy for the conversation. He's been so,lovely and good and careful attention to detail so far so I was shocked to see that he'd left it like that. He came so highly recommended by people who I trust and who have pristine homes. Trades are so fecking useless. I've never had a crew who got it all right. Ever.

Since my initial post I'm now lying in bed with chainsaws going outside for some council tree work, and the builder chipping off the tiles downstairs. And just been told that he needs to get into my bedroom to switch off the rad. So looks like I'm getting up after all. FFS.

Wallowing continues.

Ach im sorry op, thats a lot for you to put up with

@troppibambini6 moving house. Aaaaaaaagh what a pain in the arse that is. Sympathies to you.

And @ssd Thankyou.

Hope builder and covid are over soon. We all feel like pigshit at times, you are not alone.

Minor operation late afternoon so all I want to do is have a ton of margaritas and go back to sleep. I'll have to be sensible and take painkillers and a shower instead.

🦛 wallowing is necessary sometimes. It sounds like you’ve a lot on your plate @itsmeafterall and illness always makes things feel worse too. 💐

Im on a day off and feeling a bit sorry for myself as I have sooo much to do but instead am lying in bed on MN as it’s “my day off” so I am shooting myself in the foot by not just getting up and getting on with it.

DS had a GP appt and it’s about an ongoing (possibly long covid) issue that I honestly don’t feel is event going to be solved. When it’s bad it affects his schooling and his hobbies and I fee awful that we can’t seem to get on top of it. The good news is it’s nothing too worrying health wise as in breathing issues etc so I am thankful as I work in healthcare and know how shitty some peoples lives can be when they’re dealt an unfortunate hand.

I have a pile of Xmas stuff to sort through too- I am my own worst enemy as I love Xmas and present buying. And have sort of made me life more tricky as I buy advent baskets or 12 days of Xmas gifts for hard-to-buy-for friends. And so now I have more stuff to sort and I don’t want to to be a chore as I like the season etc. But it’s a lot. And time spent Xmas ing isn’t spent doing the other household crap…

I’m also trying to sort my diet out and focusing on non UPFs and healthier foods etc. which is boring and I just want a nice buttery crumpet for breakfast… not berries and Greek yoghurt. 🤣

Im a hippo in more ways that one!!!

Thanks for the wallow though, I’m going to set an alarm for 10 mins now and get up and organised then!

@Tonight1 good luck with the op. Margaritas tomorrow? Chin chin !

@fourelementary that long covid sounds horrible. I suffered for a year last time I had it and ended up having to stop work. That's one of the reasons I'm so fed up. It can be so debilitating. I hope your DS gets sorted soon.

And yes yes to buttery crumpets. I'd resolved to lose a couple of kilos before Christmas so that I can fit in my nice clothes comfortably but instead I'm eating normally and doing nothing so my arse is spreading and my joints aching. FFS fuck off covid!

It's comforting to have fellow wallowers, so Thankyou everyone 🦛

I’ve spent the best part of this year wishing I could lose weight without the hassle of diet and the chore of excessive exercise, and then my body said “is that what you want? Ok, here you go!” and made me sick enough to lose a stone whilst doing nothing but laying in bed for 4 weeks. I must be more careful what I wish for in future!

Covid, no. Stinking head cold, yes. Miserable day for weather and lots to do that can't be put off, Feel as miserable as you do OP.

Huge face changing cold sore here. Right in the middle of my cheek, in a really busy work week. If I just looked awful but felt ok I wouldn't mind but I feel as though I have flu. Going to the GP to beg for anti viral tablets.
Commiserations to everyone struggling. I haven't felt well for a while and it's so draining. Im going to buy myself lots of fruit and veg on the way home! Although a buttery crumpet sounds sooo good!
Thank you for letting me moan MN

@Luna42 giant clod sore -yikes !

How about buttered crumpets and fruit and veg ? Best of both worlds.

My lovely DD just made some spicy butternut squash and chilli soup. Accompanied with seeded sour dough and lots of butter. Which is headed straight to my arse.