I was part of a friendship group for more than a decade.
I was particularly close to one of them. Saw them several times a week, had contact several times a day, went on holiday etc.
One day she just went cold on us. Later on it became clear when her now DH proposed. We then got evening wedding invites only. There was quite a lot of drama over the hen do as we were the main people invited but she wasn’t really speaking to us but still expected us to spend a fortune on it and a whole weekend. It ended up being greatly reduced, she ignored us all night. Went to the wedding, she also ignored us.
Over the next few years we had some contact, the odd lunch. People moved and had babies and group fizzled, but I’m good friends with 2 still.
The last time I had any direct contact with her was about 7 years ago apart from odd Facebook comments.
The last 5/6 years have been awful for me. I know she knows about some of it, not all, but some.
One of my good friends saw her at a Christmas Fair yesterday.
Basically she’s had some great news and things are going brilliantly for her, so she wants me to call her so we can go out and she can tell me all about it. She then messaged her later on to remind her to ask me. Didn’t message me herself even.
I should point out my friend only told me as she’s so shocked, didn’t even ask how I was or anything, nor has she in the past when she’s seen her.
Im just shocked that someone who I would have at one point thought of a close friend can be so self interested.
I don’t even know why I’ve written this, is just why do people just become disappointing the older you get. You’d think people would improve with age.