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I think I’m burning out

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Pantspangles · 12/11/2023 20:55

I’m exhausted.

3 dc, 1 late primary 1 late secondary 1 Uni. I’m a single parent, professional job with pretty set hours but in recent months have been under pressure as we are 2 people down in my team and we’re struggling to recruit. Money is tight and I’m always worried something will go wrong with my 17 year old car or a major household appliance will break as I’d be buggered. Shower died this month which wiped out my small
savings pot to get fixed, thank goodness I have been doing bits of Xmas shopping over the last few months!

I’ve just spent the weekend rushing from football match to college open day to rugby match to cadets remembrance parade to another rugby match to housework to homework supervision to uniform prep to lunchboxes to roast dinner to sports kit prep to bed :( I’m proud of my children and their willingness to get stuck in to their hobbies but fuck me I am fed up of it. And the relentlessness of family life when absolutely everything is on my shoulders.

My hair needs dying, the greys are taking over, I am about 4 stone overweight and have so little time free that when I could be exercising I just want to hide away on my own and get some peace or sleep, I’ve generally stopped looking after myself.

I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this, I know something has to give but I’m just worried that it will be me and I’ll end up being off work for weeks to recover. I don’t know how to deal with it though, or whether I’m just being a fucking lazy so and so and need to pull myself together and just get on with it like everyone else.

I feel so broken :(

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MooFroo · 12/11/2023 21:03

Bless you @Pantspangles that all
sounds exhausting! Is there anyone at all who could help with some of that? Can older DC help ferry round the other DC?
mine had to learn that I couldn’t go to every match or play or school event and would prioritise the most important ones.

Anything you can cut back on to save time and money?

good luck xx

Pantspangles · 12/11/2023 21:57

Thank you @MooFroo. Not really anyone else to help- exh does the same on the weekends they are with him but it’s easier I think as he has a partner who can support too. She’s lovely.

Every single weekday evening there is an activity. And they don’t do masses. Ds1 is away, ds2 does 2 activities and ds3 does his two activities as well.

My parents are elderly and already pick them up from school on a Monday (I collect them from there after work and straight to ds3 sporting activity) so can’t really ask for more. They are doing as much as they can.

I think I just need a break but I don’t know how to get one!

mN

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