1st world problems - bloody Xmas and thinking about presents!!

[Nursenance]

Every single year!! We also have a lot of Dec birthdays.
We have a large and lovely extended family with inlaws. It's all good and a lot to be thankful for.
But
Every single year I feel like I am responsible for thinking of, asking for, arranging, passing on presents for everyone!! What do my kids want (they are both nearly 20!), what does my husband want, thinking of and getting presents for my mum in law to give, then presents for my mum to give, then present from my dad to my mum. Then sis in law wants to know what everyone wants. Then my brother rings asking what everyone wants and what should he get our mum and dad, then hubby asking what I want.
It drives me insane!!! And makes me very grumpy!
Then family ask me why I'm a miserable cow about presents and Xmas! Cos I've had to organise 36 of them!!!

Every year i suggest why don't we all just get each other a token present..a surprise...chocolate, alcohol, earrings, scarf...but inlaws say "oh no I want to get something they actually want'.
Argh!!!!!

Feeling very grumpy today and also know im unreasonable because I have a lovely family but when will it ever end?

Does anyone else feel like this?

Yes I have this too. After many years I now keep all my good present ideas for myself and tell my kids to make Amazon wishlists to share if they want. Beyond that I tend to say "I'm sure they'll love whatever you give them".

I used to run around trying to give everyone great ideas for presents only to find they either ignored my suggestions (in which case DC ended up without the thing they actually wanted and I'd have happily bought myself) or else I ended up feeling resentful and grumpy about putting so much effort in, which is a shame when people are trying to be kind.

To misquote Robert Frost, good boundaries make good families.