How to live life to the fullest everyday.

[Carolinejone]

Hey. I watched Stacey Dooley: inside the undertaker last night and it got me thinking. How can I live life more fully?

I have a lovely life, a lovely family, I read, I meditate and I'm very happy. Just interested in other people's thoughts or is there anything advice you would give someone to live life to the fullest? Thanks

Sounds perfect ☺️

Love this 🩷

There's no proof of this at all!

But if her belief is making the poster feel better about life surely that is the only important thing.

@girlfriend44 I never tried to convince anybody of anything. I'm not trying to argue my point or beat anyone with my beliefs. I shared my own perspective, which brings great meaning and fulfilment to my life, without any obligation for anyone to share my views.

I've obviously made my decision to be a Christian for a reason, but I don't think that this thread is the place for apologetics or debates, as that's not what the original post was about.

I think it would be totally inappropriate to derail the thread because you don't like the fact that I get strength, satisfaction and comfort from my faith and that I dared to speak about my own experiences, experiences which mean so much to me.

Thanks for posting to my question ☺️
I'm glad you have found something that you love.

The replies to my post have been such a delight to read.

Have a lovely evening.

For me, it’s getting out & walking in the countryside or by the sea. Going to see plays, art galleries, trying lovely restaurants. Also exploring new places around the UK & other countries. If I laze in my house too much I get down & don’t really feel alive.

What a rude response. People have faith. That’s fine. Do you say that to everyone you meet who’s religious?

Same! I struggle to lie in bed lol I like to get up, have a coffee and start my day.
I would love to live by the sea and go swimming in the mornings x

Writing a gratitude journal...just noting down a few things each day doesn't matter what it is as long as your feel grateful for seeing it, being part of it etc

Also, someone once said you can start the day with a negative it positive mindset. Eg working Monday to Friday, up at 6am, dark mornings...I could think this and be 'oh god I bloody hate these dark early mornings and it'll be bad traffic going to work, blah blah' or I could think 'I get to go to work today, I can listen to my fave music whilst sat in traffic, I can take my favourite coffee flask into work today...' you get the picture.😁

How to live life to the fullest everyday.

The problem I always have with this is - for me to live life to the fullest tomorrow say would involve a first class flight to an overwater villa in the Maldives followed by a trip to Istanbul on the Orient express.

I would be bankrupt and then living live to the emptiest having lived it for the fullest for a short while.

I don't know how you balance the fullest with the future planning.

Place marking for ideas.

I have stage 4 cancer so I'm likely to die fairly soon (in my early 50's).

Obviously it's bit of a head fuck but I find it interesting that I haven't found the need to embark upon a bucket list and essentially the same things which have always brought me happiness and contentment continue to do so.

So for me it's about paring life down so I appreciate all the small things, being mindful of the good things so I can truly appreciate what I have. I think constantly striving to reach goals, do stuff and achieve can make you more rather than less dissatisfied but I think balance is key too so a little bit of variety etc. is also important.

I find life hard- I'm a life long sufferer of anxiety and depression. But I love my children fiercely and laugh every day. I cherish my friends and family. For me, life isn't about pretending that every day is blissful or that life isn't full of drudgery or hurt or pain or anger but that despite it all, I am still desperately glad to be alive and am able to find beauty in the darkness. I accept life's hardships and want to be alive despite them. Life is a rainbow which also includes black, as someone once said.

@TwigTheWonderKid
That’s humbling and reassuring.
I wish you all joy in the world.

I try and savour & enjoy the little joys in life. A long hot shower, a home cooked meal, a favourite film on the tv in the evening with a candle on! Don't let these things just become the norm, enjoy them 🫶🏼

Obviously. That's why it's called faith. Interesting how you feel the need to piss on someone else's parade. She's happy. She doesn't need a reason for it that meets your approval.

OP I find sadness is those major life events, sometimes catastrophic, that one needs to pick oneself up from and find a way forward. Sometimes the major event is simply a running out of patience, after an accumulation of minor annoyances that may have be going on for years, that prompts change. Happiness is different. It is the net that stitches a person together and stops those sad events causing total and irreparable destruction to one's being. Happiness is those situations you've chosen to be in. A marriage, a job, a pet or hobby, whatever it is it's important and provides a baseline happiness even when times are tough and you don't feel happy. Then there's all those little things that make up a day. The perfume you put on in the morning, the route you take from A to B because it's more pleasant than the shorter one, a smile from a friend, a hot bath after you've been soaked in the rain. Those small things sew up the holes caused by the sad things and knit the bigger happy things together into one enormous blanket that is a life.

For Me, living life to the fullest is about finding joy and fulfillment in the small, everyday moments. It's a continuous journey of self-discovery and appreciation for the world around Me.

The other thing I should have mentioned is the importance for me of understanding and making the most of my connection to the world (to nature and other people). So maintaining my friendships, being an active part of my local community and being mindful of my impact on the environment. I think this is where I get the sense of achievement that other people strive for in different ways.

@TwigTheWonderKid thank you for posting &wishing you well.

So for me it's about paring life down so I appreciate all the small things, being mindful of the good things so I can truly appreciate what I have. I think constantly striving to reach goals, do stuff and achieve can make you more rather than less dissatisfied

Why do you think/say that constantly striving to reach goals/do stuff/achieve makes you more than less satisfied?

That's my experience but I've never identified it in this way. Do you think it's because identifying the goal makes you think when you have it you will be happy but when you do, nothing has changed?

For me, I think I'm not doing it quite right or not living life to the fullest, because I spend way too much time on Mumsnet or reading online news. My life is very good but I know I am underachieving and being pretty lazy.

Settings a goal and achieving it can boost self esteem and increase the feel good factor in your life.

But not stopping to celebrate your achievements and savour them leads to striving for one goal after another with no letup, never feeling like you're finished with the to-do list. It decreases enjoyment of life because it all feels like constant hard work and nothing is ever enough, it's always onto the next thing.

So stop. Do one thing at a time. Then step back and enjoy where you're at for a while. Setting a new goal to strive for should feel exciting, not something you push yourself to do with a huge sigh because you feel you must.