he cheated on me

[Dachshund]

we have been together 17 years married 6

2 beautiful children

he lied and lied and lied

i have no money i work for his company i feel completely pathetic because my first thought wasn’t to leave him. i don’t know if i can do it. my heart is broken

he claimed he was suicidally unhappy being with me and that the strain of being the sole provider was too much so in july he downloaded hinge to get a ‘confidence boost’ and that he really didn’t intend for anything to happen except friendship with this woman. then he admitted they had sex. then it was 3 times. then it was that he saw her last night

then it comes out she’s dumped him unless he leaves me so that’s clearly what’s prompted him to confess.

then turns out there’s another woman who’s he ‘only’ been messaging for friendship and support. but of course behind my back.

I'm sorry this has happened, OP.

You need to leave. There is no future for this relationship - there have been two other women, that you know of, already. The line about joining Hinge for confidence-boosting is pure bullshit, as I'm sure you realise.

"You have no money" - well, you are married, so you will be entitled to a divorce settlement and he will also have to support the DC. Hopefully someone with knowledge will be along when MN is a bit busier to advise you on this.

I suggest you start looking for another job ASAP - get your CV together and sign up to some job websites. The general advice is to prepare yourself as much as possible before you split, so if you can get info on his business's financials and so on, do it while you can.

Wishing you the best of luck

What an awful pathetic shit he is.

Pick yourself up off the floor, get all the financial info you can and find your inner warrior.
Needing to get an STI test will be the catalyst for that.

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. It's utter shit I know.
Sending a hand hold and a hug.