Sick of guilt, i didn't cared enough for my daughters teeth

[SillyKitty]

I'm being honest here and i feel like crap about it (and i know i should).

I have a daughter who is 9 now and i take good care for her teeth now, but sadly this hasn't always be the case. I always used to brush my teeth once a day, in the evening. For the most part because i'm lazy about it. I don't know where it was going wrong, but at some point i let my daughter also brush her teeth only in the evening. Also she brushed her teeth by herself at the age of 5/6. My dentist told me later kids need to be helped till they are ten years old(and i feel really stupid for not knowing this). First this routine worked great for her. She had no cavities in het babyteeth. By the age of 6 she changed some babyteeth into permanent teeth. Obviously this routine didn't work for her permanent teeth, because she soon had 2 cavities. After she had them filled i immediately started to take care of her teeth. I was shocked and filled with guilt. I really wanted to do things right. Despite of this she had another cavity next visit. She is 9 and already has 3 fillings in her permanent teeth and quite frankly, i'm feeling sick of guilt. The last couple of visits at the dentist are going ok, so it seems we have it under control now. She needs braces and i'm already looking for the best orthontic in town. I want to give her the best smile and teeth i can give. I know i can't change the past and have to look to the future, but i just can't get past this. I think about it every day.

So please mommy's, take care of your child s teeth. You will regret it if you don't.

Haven't rtft but as a child my parents were really hot on dental hygiene.
Yet I was at the dentist for fillings, crown, fissure sealings and abscesses all under the age of 10.
At a later age, I asked a dentist why and he said genetically, some teeth are smoother and easier to clean with less places for bacteria to hide. I am the opposite with bumpy teeth so no matter how well I brush, I will always have issues with bacterial damage. Pretty shit, but what can you do.

I can relate, I consider myself a very informed parent but took eye off the ball on this when DD was about 5.,they always got sent to brush their teeth but I didn't always supervise and she had problems. Adult teeth are fine
I don't think it is very well known

As much as anything it's the luck of the draw. I have one with strong even teeth, the other needed braces and countless fillings in adulthood, it's vital she sees her dentist/hygienist regularly without fail. We say she's inherited her father's poor teeth. Certainly keeping on top of potential problems is very important