How do you get past anger?

[Vibing]

Logically I know but physically it sits in my stomach...
I know the cliches that are very true....
'Its like drinking poison', 'the best revenge is indifference and getting on with your life'

Ive done therapy, hypnosis all that jazz and its still there. It feels like Ive been bullied and I want to face that person down and have them acknowledge what theyve done (which i know will never happen).

From the Father of my sons cutting them out of his life, to my mum not being around growing up and turning her back on me as a teenager after I met her. To my ex who was a complete dickhead and a rebound after my marriage. To being told by most recent partner of a number of years that he wanted space to get his life in order...

I know this is just life stuff. Had friends and family over the years telling me to be balanced and put it behind me and i feel its just made me angry cause ive had to shock absorb other peoples crap. If i react then im not handling it right.

But all that has happened is ive capped the anger and its sat there.

Any words of wisdom on how to get past anger because Im most certainly not having them affecting my life any longer and making out that Im responsible for their personal issues.

How do you get past longstanding anger??

You've been treated in an unjust way by multiple people, who have walked away from the shitty effects of their own behaviour. And the anger is probably sticking around because its going to be mixed in with a sense of injustice. That's not something you just get over.Start by acknowledging that your feelings are in proportion to the way you have been treated. Analyse the series of events that led to each situation.Work out ways you can protect yourself from similar abuse in future. Get a plan in place. Focus on yourself - doing something proactive for yourself if the most liberating thing you can do. Read ''The Gift of Fear'' by Gavin de Becker and ''Why Does He Do That?'' by Lundy Bancroft. Learn about The Karpman Drama Triangle, and transactional analysis. Learn ways to spot those types earlier or even repel them, rather than have to deal with them when you are invested.

@Thelnebriati thank you....
and I will definitely look into those....already earmarked one of the books on audible..
Looking into 'smash rooms' too and Ive asked a friend to come with me....

Have you had chance to shout and scream about it all?

In the past I've driven to somewhere remote and shouted and screamed and cried. I've beat up a cushion in my front room.

Sometimes you need to vocalise it to let it all out.

Loads of shit things have happened and your allowed to express anger at it. You might feel better after that.

I dont know op i cant get past it myself