Does anyone find humans difficult to live with?

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I genuinely find people such hard work.
My line manager is moody, irritable and permanently on a short fuse. She's a woman in her 50s who never smiles and walks around sighing all the time and leaching my energy from me.
My colleagues irritate the hell out of me. One of them sings musical songs at super high volume down the corridors and is constantly demeaning towards others. One of them sits at my desk and moans about the workplace for 40 mins then says "right I'm off for lunch" and leaves me to stay late to catch up on the work I've missed from listening to her moaning. My boss never remembers anything he's agreed with me from one week to the next, and he is sarcastic, insincere, flaky and 2 faced to the extreme.
My friends are soooo needy. OMG, all they do is constantly text me wanting to endlessly meet up for long walks, coffees for entire mornings, evening drinks.....I am a working mum with young DC, I haven't got time!!!! Can't they see I haven't got time for all this non-stop socialising? It's so bloody obvious! Why do they put all this pressure on me to constantly meet up for hours on end? I say thanks but no thanks, I'm busy, but they just get really pushy and say "But I haven't seen you for ages, ok if you can't do that invite here's another invite ..." Go away!!!
Why do other parents endlessly text me to ask my DC to meet up with their DC? Text after text after text about playdates, parties, days out to kids activities places, invites round for tea, fireworks parties, halloween parties, Christmas parties, OMG if I said yes to every invite I'd never actually see my children!
Schools. Why are schools so demanding??? I'm not exaggerating when I say I get over 15 emails a week from my DC's school. In 1 week last week, I got school emails about: own clothes day, mental health, donate £1, make a rocket at home and bring it to school, swimming lessons consent, school trip letter, donate money to the school, assembly invite, news about a teacher's pregnancy, letter from the Head, letter from the Governors, school activities planned, PTA update, weather warning letter, appeal for parent helpers, end of week newsletter, lost property, an alert telling us to send our children to school wearing coats now that the weather is cold and wet OF COURSE I'M GOING TO SEND MY CHILD IN WITH A COAT NOW IT'S COLD AND WET YOU DONT NEED TO EMAIL ME THIS!!!! School send this volume of emails EVERY WEEK.
I feel like picking my DC up and taking them with me to go and live on a desert island where I can just be left alone.

Sorry but... if you don't like your job, find a new one.

The school thing...I mean...I went to school and experienced it and so I can't believe anyone would want to have kids and know they'll have to go through that same shite too so sorry but I can't be sympathetic on that one lol. You walked into it by having kids and perpetuating the cycle.

The friend thing though...I mean fuck I'd kill to have people in my life that actually made the effort to do things. I suspect if you were not so pissed off wirh all the other stuff that you are, choosing, you'd enjoy them a lot more too.

Start lightening your workload. Maybe hire a cleaner? Look for a new job? Take a holiday? Block the school emails. Fuck them. If anything important is happening they can write you a damn letter. Start saying 'no' and meaning it.

And work emails. Endless, never ending work emails. So demanding!
And personal emails.
And online orders. Why do companies have to send an email to confirm your order, another one to say thanks for your order, an email confirmation of delivery date, an email telling you your order has left the warehouse, an email telling you your order is out for delivery, an email telling you its being delivered that day, an email telling you it's been delivered, an email asking you to rate your customer experience, an emailofferingmoney off your next purchase......bloody hell, just deliver my order instead of sending me 10 emails about it!! Go away!

I would look for another job if you're unhappy. Try and keep up with the friendships as you won't be a busy parent all your life and when the kids flee the nest you'll need them. Just unsubscribe or delete the emails.

Can I recommend a therapist? Or a strong alcoholic beverage, perhaps? 😂

This sounds like quite an OTT viewpoint. It's just life.

Your job, well you can change that and look for another.

Your friends aren't being "needy" they enjoy your company and want to spend time with you. Just say you're busy, it's not a big deal.

Playdates and school emails - that's part of having kids, it's what you sign up for.

Well if you’re like this now just wait until you are “a woman in her 50s”…!

god, yes. I really do understand. I get in funks like this, especially when I need a break.
it sounds like burnout, OP!
it also sounds like you need stronger boundaries. If someone moans on and on to you for 40 minutes, time to risk their upset and say “sorry to hear you’re down (again.) I need to get on with work now,” and do so.

be firm. What’s the worst that can happen? You’ll offend them, maybe. Sometimes that can be a good thing- they’ll go dump on someone else.

start saying no, and protecting your energy, and let yourself get some peace. Burnout is bad & it takes about 5 years (I’m told. A speaker at work told us this. Not sure how they came by that number) to recover.

be strong! And the friends will understand if you just say you need a rest.

These humans! What are you? An alien?