I would like a second child, DH wouldn’t. Back story: I’m 42, DH 48. It took us 6 years and an emotional and physical rollercoaster to have our DS, 2. We had the double whammy of struggling to conceive and having miscarriages. Then a disastrous round of IVF on the NHS that left me with sepsis. Then, finally private IVF at a cost of £££ that left us with a number of frozen embryos, one of which became DS. Textbook pregnancy but 6 days after DS was born by C section I had a serious PPH, was blue lighted to hospital in the middle of the night and lost an estimated 2.5l of blood. Am lucky to be here. DH struggled mentally in the first few months after DS born (I think he probably had PND, but health visitor wasn’t interested). Much healthier and happier now our boy has become a little person with personality of his own. But adamant he doesn’t want another.
After all of that, I can’t blame DH for not wanting another, can I? But I feel sad to deprive DS of the chance of a good sibling relationship (obviously there are no guarantees!). Maybe just hormones speaking. I’m generally fit and healthy and, as we would be using a frozen embryo, I’m comfortable with the level of genetic risk.