Amount of Housekeeping paid by adult working child?

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DS (21) is living back at home after Uni and has started a good, well paid job. Trying to work out how much he should be contributing to the household.
It would include all food, washing etc

If you're in the same position, how much does your child pay you per month please?

I think it is healthy to charge adult children rent.
You are teaching them the value of stuff and that everything needs to be paid for. You are preparing them for the real world.

The danger if not is you breed entitled, workshy children who can not fend for them selves and I see a lot of that out there.

Come on how much does a shower cost, especially in winter as the boiler is on to heat the house. I would not be giving my children a bill for a few pounds!
I expect my children to pay me back by doing the same for their children.

If people are hard up that is an entirely different matter. My sister who was a single parent only charged her son for the extra costs he incurred. This meant she charged him for the extra council tax she had to pay and for the sky package that he wanted. He did provide his own food and sometimes bought some for her.
In my case and hers the house would be heated anyway.

eldest has just started his first full time job on a decent wage for his age. He desperately wants to buy his own flat , so dh and I agreed a minimal amount of money to cover his electricity from working at home some days and his phone bill.

this was agreed as long as he didn’t waste money and he saved. Which he appears to be doing.

we don’t need the money he gives us but we take £100 a month so he can save as much as he can. He has a 3 year aim of buying a flat.

I still do all our washings together as it’s easier than him doing a half load here and there,

DS doesn't pay anything as we are quite keen for him to save as much as possible to get himself on the property ladder. I didn't want to take rent and save it for him as I trust him to save for himself. He already understands about bills and budgeting as he lived away from home for 4 years at Uni.

I wouldn't be paying the same bills if DS wasn't here. I rent my home and if DS didn't live here I'd rent a smaller one bedroom place. My electricity and food bills would be half what they are now too!

People saying £500+ - £125 per week?? That’s so much

300 a month if you are feeding him amd doing his chores!

DS (19) doesn’t pay anything yet (and we still pay for most of the food, do his laundry etc) but he does help around the house and save £600/mth into long term savings and has joined his work pension scheme. I would definitely be charging him rent if these things weren’t happening.

People saying £500+ - £125 per week?? That’s so much

There's just me and DS here. Not including food, monthly I pay:
Rent 800
CT 200
Utilities 200
Internet 40
Contents Insurance 20

So £1260. He pays me £300. So I am still spending more than 3 times that each month. As I said in my earlier post. If he moved out, I'd rent his room out to a lodger. If he gets a pay rise (he is in line for promotion at some point) absolutely his contribution will be increased. We're in London. A room in a shared house would be £600 a month minimum, then bills on top. So he's still getting a good deal.

My daughter earns more than me so I therefore ask for approx 1/3 of the costs of running the home.

I'd divide the bills between however many people in the house and charge that, plus a bit extra for general house maintenance.

Thank you everyone - very interesting how views differ. He actually suggested paying his way, but none of us had any idea what the going rate is.

It will certainly be a help to have the money - like everyone else, costs, especially food and he eats so much, have gone up so much. He's on a really decent wage and so is able to save as well.

We do his washing as it seems so silly to do twice as many half washes. He does his own ironing though - and has been known to do his brother's school shirts at the same time!!

I'll have a proper look at all the suggestions.

I only charge ds 21 £100 a month on the condition he saves for a house deposit and driving lesson which he has done. He has about 11k saved atm

There’s always one! Has it crossed your mind maybe she needs the money. My 23 year old daughter earns 15k more than me so should I still keep her? Genuinely interested in your thinking

My son is 18 and looking for work so we have agreed he will pay half his driving lessons from his UC. I've always said 25% of wages. But I might include him paying car insurance etc towards that as it's a big expense as a new driver. He has to get a job first and isn't having much luck so far.

£200pm. She tends to buy her own breakfast and lunch on way to work and also buys some food items I don't tend to buy that she wants. Actually tends to eat out or at boyfriends about four times a week, so what pays is more towards bills, general maintenance.

I also don’t believe in charging because I would be paying the same bills even if they weren’t there. The idea of benefiting because your children are there is abhorrent

Charge rent/don't charge rent, up to you. If you can afford to have adult children at home without charging them, and you choose not to, then that's fine for you, your choice.

But to say that bills won't change if they are not there is laughable. I have three adult children. They cost a fortune in food, gas, electricity. One has moved out now - the food and fuel bills have all fallen considerably. As has the TV package!

Very few people benefit from the rent that their children pay. It rarely even cover the food/fuel etc in most cases. So to say it's abhorrent is extremely harsh. For many, a child reaching adulthood also comes with a loss of child benefit, tax credits etc, so clearly the government is thinking that adult children should, at the very least, be paying something towards their way of life.

DM charged me 25%, I always thought it was fair.

When (at that point future) DH and I started seriously saving for a house she said not to pay her anything as long as the money went into the house deposit savings, which it did.

My adult DS moved out 3 months ago. All the time he lived at home he paid £300 pcm. That included having Sky Movies and Sky Sports in his room, ridiculously fast internet that we would've needed, his mobile contract as part of our Virgin bundle, all food he ate at home including any packed up lunches to took to work as had a microwave so often took leftovers from dinner, electricity and water. He paid for himself his cats food and vets bills. He always did his own washing and cooked for the family twice a week. I also expected him to do weekly chores of emptying the kitchen bin into black dustbin, cleaning his own bathroom once a week, changing his own sheets and duvet each week and washing and drying them and putting away food shopping when it was delivered. He also once or twice a week popped into a shop to pick up milk, bread or fresh fruit after work. He also paid £400 pcm into his LISA and paid £200 pcm into his pension pot. He still had plenty to spend on going out with friends, his cinema monthly pass, takeaways, new clothes, holidays and usually saved a bit into his savings account too.

I suppose my think is that it’s good for a working DC to make a contribution but I’d want them to save so would not want anything like 25% of overall monthly costs of running a home. Why would they not just as well move out to a shared house as impact on savings would be same?

A shared house would be far more than 25% of monthly costs for running a home in my house. My bills are less than a grand a month, so 25% would be £250pm, find a shared house for that price!

£350. He takes home about 1400. He has to pay for travel and buys some of his own food if he doesn’t fancy what’s in. If I could afford not to charge him I’d quietly put it aside for him towards a house deposit - sadly not an option at the moment.

DD1 is paying £150 a month, but she is only home for a few months, working in a cafe and saving hard for a trip abroad before starting a grad job in August.

If she ends up living at home once she starts the grad job, which is unlikely, then the rent will go up to reflect the higher pay.

We don't NEED the money - it's more of a token amount. And she's using the rest of her pay to build her savings. If she was blowing her spare cash on frivolous crap I might have a different view......