Division of housework, I know...its been done before

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How do you divide housework if you have a DH who "doesn't see mess / dirt" 🙄?

In the ideal world we'd both just chip in as needed, but it's not working out like that. A cleaner isn't viable right now.

We both wfh mostly, in roles where there are natural gaps where 15 minutes of housework is possible here and there, seniority levels and workload are similar. DC are early primary.

How does it work in your house if one of you isn't a self starter?

Presuming that he honestly genuinely doesn’t see it, and this isn’t some shitty weaponised incompetence act…
He takes responsibility for the regular specific stuff- clean the bathroom every Monday, stick a load of laundry on every other day, put away the previous load that’s now dry, unstack the diswasher every morning first thing etc etc. You accept that the as/when stuff is on you but shouldn’t feel hard done by because he’s taking on more of the set stuff.

@InTheRainOnATrain I think there must be an element of WI as who genuinely can't see that the bathroom is filthy or the stairs need a hoover? He does the "Just tell me what needs doing and I'll do it" bit, but who wants to be House Manager when there is another adult living here?

I think I may just put him in charge of laundry as that's a clear task, as well as dishwasher and bins, and I'll do the rest.