DH looking at half naked model on his phone

[Feelingcrappy2]

Unfortunately this has come at the worst time as I’m pregnant and feeling very hormonal, insecure and just a bit shit really.

DH came home tonight, I had his dinner ready for him. He ate that, showered and went and sat on the sofa watching facebook videos on his phone.

I was sat on the sofa behind and the way he was positioned meant I could see his phone.
I happened to glance over at the moment he stopped scrolling to become mesmerised by a stunning runway model in a bikini. He attempted to cover the screen with his hand and turn the phone slightly but I could still see that he was rewatching it and must have watched it a good 3/4 times.

Am I just being an idiot for storming off to bed and crying my heart out?! I used to work in a male dominated office (where most of them were husbands and fathers) and they always used to look at things like this on their phones, magazines etc etc, even the ones who seemed really innocent and just not the type! So it’s almost been somewhat normalised for me and I do think some men just like to have a cheeky look..

However, it’s really hurt me seeing that tonight and caught me at the worst time. Just felt like a mug really.

How would you react?

Men will always look at scantily clad attractive women, but it doesn't lessen his love or attraction to you. You could be the single most beautiful woman God ever created, and your DH will still have a sneaky peak. I think it's just how they're hardwired. Obviously I understand at the moment you aren't feeling your most sexy - but try not to take it personally. 🥰

@WinteryWonderland thank you! Needed that. X

I agree with wintery wonderland said.
As long as he is not messaging them etc then I wouldn't be too fussed.
Also I always try to think of this when I catch my man glancing at other girls

Don't worry about what starts his engine as long as he is parking in your garage.

That would creep me out too and I'm not pregnant. And no, it's not all men, and it's not that the poor dears can't help it.

Sorry OP his behaviour is gross. Yes men can help themselves from looking at half naked women when sat in the same room as their pregnant wife. It's like saying these poor men can't control themselves from sexually assaulting a if women if she is wearing a short skirt. Gross and disrespectful - and if you PP are happy with your men treating you in that manner then you need to get some higher standards and some self respect.

If it's a one off I'd probably just say something witty to show him I'd seen and then forget about it. Do you never hover over a picture of an attractive man as your'e scrolling? But if he's regularly gawping then he's immature and needs to grow up before becoming a Dad.

Well I get blokes on my feed some times and I must admit I do have a gander. It's just passing. I'm not talking to anyone or searching them out. It's just something on there so I appreciate it as it passes. I don't think my husband would care.

I’d have reacted like you did too x
Bit he didn’t technically do anything wrong
but it got you at a vulnerable moment when pregnant

No it's not the same and to say it is, is actually dispicable.
If it was in real life then it would be inappropriate as the female may feel uncomfortable but online on a public account, looking is not harmful.
Tbh if you think that your husband or partner has never taken a second look at an attractive women then you're delusional, even if you're drop dead gorgeous.

That would be too gross for me.

Have none of you ever checked out fit celebrities, athletes?
Do you all believe that if you are married you are not allowed to look at anyone else?
I get you feel shit about yourself and get why it's upset you but I don't think he's done the slightest thing wrong!

Not gonna lie this would piss me right off esspecially if I was pregnant...but on the other hand he was not doing it blatantly or openly comparing or disrespecting you...
I can't lie I have appreciated the beauty of a very handsome man but it's just that..appreciation..you know him more than we do...what was he doing? Appreciation or something else?...
It's also OK to feel the way you do I know was very vulnerable and sensitive during my pregnancy sometimes I did over think or overreact but it's also OK to speak to him about how this made you feel because communication is important, maybe not straight away but when you feel able...Big hugs and love babe ❤️

I totally understand your emotions Feelingcrappy2, but I would be lying if I didn't admit to occasionally re-watching clips of Dwayne Johnson in his shorts when they pop up on my feed. It's nothing against my DH though, I'm just interested in how Dwayne is put together.

I’d feel worse about cooking him a meal and then he just eats it and gets on with his night. Did he clear away? Did he thank you for the meal? Don’t set yourself up as the domestic doormat. He should be interacting with you and your life together, not gawping at fantasy women.

Sometimes I have a perv over male celebrities. It’s just a fantasy. Doesn’t mean I don’t love or respect my partner any less. Chances are it’s those damn pregnancy hormones making it seem worse. Try and get some rest.

Agree.
Men have choices..they choose to do this..they can help themselves fgs. Theyre adults! Sorry OP..you are entitled to feel upset. Have it out with him

I understand where you’re coming from OP, I was also really insecure and self conscious when I was pregnant.

It is definitely normal to have a look at other attractive people though. I hate when you see men stare and drool over women in real life. I do think it’s normal to have a quick glance at attractive people in real life, but that’s different from staring/drooling.
I think especially if it’s a post/video on social media, it’s easy for them to stare without coming across as a creep.

I’m bi and I do look if I see, for example, attractive male or female celebrities on social media. I think 95% of people do but even women who do it themselves are a lot more sensitive to men doing it.

He was also scrolling through and stopped to have a look, it’s not like he was seeking our half naked instagram models and commenting on their posts like you hear about loads of men doing.

While I think your reaction is totally understandable, hormones etc (I was the same), I don’t think he’s in the wrong either. I don’t understand the reaction of some comments, are people not supposed to notice or look at attractive people?

I can't imagine my hubby doing this hurtful if he did tbh

I'd be very childish and not have his tea ready when he came home for the next few weeks days

I had his dinner ready for him

Why??

I'd make it for myself and for my unborn child.

Because from the sounds of it that will be your future. Get your #DUCKS IN A ROW.#