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If your a first aider with recent training

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DyslexicPoster · 05/11/2023 21:23

Would you offer help if you saw someone in trouble?

Out in the car earlier, someone was on the floor next to a car in a car park we was in. Not sure if the been hit by a car, or fainted or what but clearly not ok and laying on the wet floor. Dh has just recently done a two day first aid course for work. I asked if he was going to check if they needed help. There was two people with the person on the floor so dh said no, they already had help. I asked how he knew he wasn't more qualified to help.

I think this is pretty standard thinking for my dh. He is qualified to give first aid at WORK. This was not work and no one had asked for help so I think in his mind, that was that. He is isn't great on critical proactive thinking. I think if I was him, I'd would have asked if they needed help.

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MrShady · 05/11/2023 23:47

I'm a helper I guess and barged into a crowd of people around a guy on the floor
The crowd weren't actually helping - he wasn't breathing and nobody was doing CPR so I'm glad I did

templeking · 05/11/2023 23:56

What's work got to do with it? He'll only give first aid if he is at work? Doesn't make sense to me. You help because you can.

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DyslexicPoster · 06/11/2023 00:12

templeking · 05/11/2023 23:56

What's work got to do with it? He'll only give first aid if he is at work? Doesn't make sense to me. You help because you can.

That's what I was wondering. Maybe in dhs mind, first aid is only something he does if he is asked to at work, as work sent him on the course. Whereas I was thinking there was a situation and he might have had the skills to be of help. I still think if I was him I would have checked if help was needed. But I wasn't driving so couldn't stop the car.

He did think pre course that I couldn't be having a stroke because although my face had dropped on one side, I could still raise both arms. He thought you needed all three ( face dropped and slurred speak and unable to raise both arms). So maybe he isn't confident either.

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Itsbecauseiamamumandlovethem · 06/11/2023 00:22

A first aider is actually that ! If you understand and can do CPR then just do it.
CPR can make a big difference to the outcome.Every child in secondary school should be taught it .!

Elderflower14 · 06/11/2023 07:00

I did a first aid course as my best friend is epileptic. I never knew what to do... The very next day she had a seizure... I immediately put her in the recovery position!

PupsAWeasel · 06/11/2023 07:02

Every child in secondary school should be taught it .!

They are in year 9.

OP, rather than criticising your husband, how about you do a first aid course yourself? I can't believe your attitude, you are treating your husband like a teenage son who is being naughty and useless. Have some self respect, and practice first aid yourself.

Watchkeys · 06/11/2023 07:11

If my partner didn't help, I'd assume it was to do with a lack of confidence in applying the knowledge from a 2 day course in a situation that we weren't involved in, and where the first aider's actions could have serious consequences. It's a personal choice, and I would respect that.

Why are you questioning your husband's decision? Are you fed up with a more general 'I won't help anyone unless I'm forced' attitude?

WrongSwanson · 06/11/2023 07:13

PupsAWeasel · 06/11/2023 07:02

Every child in secondary school should be taught it .!

They are in year 9.

OP, rather than criticising your husband, how about you do a first aid course yourself? I can't believe your attitude, you are treating your husband like a teenage son who is being naughty and useless. Have some self respect, and practice first aid yourself.

I agree

Everyone should do first aid courses regularly throughout life.

Glad they do it in secondary.

I did lifeguard training as a teen and I have potentially saved several lives (including my son's, when he was a baby) as a result.

Watchkeys · 06/11/2023 07:20

Itsbecauseiamamumandlovethem · 06/11/2023 00:22

A first aider is actually that ! If you understand and can do CPR then just do it.
CPR can make a big difference to the outcome.Every child in secondary school should be taught it .!

And do you think everybody should feel obliged to use it whenever an instance arises? Even if they don't feel comfortable/confident in that particular situation?

morrrr · 06/11/2023 07:24

It sounds as though it was already in hand. I imagine too many people stopping and going over would be an absolute nightmare.

Perhaps he's also not very confident carrying out First Aid?

cakeorwine · 06/11/2023 07:31

I did the 3 day course a few years ago. I was driving along a country lane and saw someone who was lying by the road with support from 2 people. I stopped the car and went over. Turns out she had a local doctor with her who just lived over the road!!

I would stop and see if I could offer help.

Toddlerteaplease · 06/11/2023 09:22

I've been a paediatric nurse for 20 years. But I don't feel at all confident in helping adults!

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DyslexicPoster · 06/11/2023 09:34

PupsAWeasel · 06/11/2023 07:02

Every child in secondary school should be taught it .!

They are in year 9.

OP, rather than criticising your husband, how about you do a first aid course yourself? I can't believe your attitude, you are treating your husband like a teenage son who is being naughty and useless. Have some self respect, and practice first aid yourself.

He was driving the car and decided not to stop when I asked him. He said they didn't need help. I'm not jumping out of a moving car. Sorry

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jannier · 06/11/2023 16:50

Watchkeys · 06/11/2023 07:20

And do you think everybody should feel obliged to use it whenever an instance arises? Even if they don't feel comfortable/confident in that particular situation?

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I do wonder how they would feel if they later discovered that the person they walked by had died

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