Hormonal meltdown

[Lastnightsbolognese]

Before I attempt to book a dreaded doctor, I thought I'd consult the wise people of mumsnet.

Since I started my period, I've been subject to what I can only describe as meltdown/anxiety/rage the day before and the day I come on. I've asked the doctor before and they've said its normal pmt or sent me away with anti anxiety meds.

The thing is, I'm not depressed or anxious at any other time. I'm calm, rational and capable for 29 days of every month and then its like a switch flips and I become an absolute mess. Today, I forgot my purse while taking DC to a club and the got stuck in traffic so we were late and by the time I dropped them off I burst into tears at having to drive 40 mins home and another 40 back, due to traffic (normally 20). It was unavoidable as I had to pay something cash for the club. I felt useless, and almost like I didn't want to live.

I'm already on the hana pill (docs is difficult to get to and an appt) and this has helped reduce it from 3 days to one.

Does anyone else have this, and had anyone successfully combatted it?

To add, its ruined every relationship I've had.

It's not normal for PMT to be so bad it ruins relationships.

Have you had a look at Pre Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)?

Ask you doctor about PMDD, there are certain antidepressants that can be prescribed for this that you can take for a few days each month (or continually) to help with this.

Have you had this all your life OP? I never suffered with thus until recently. I'm 46. Can only assume its menopause related.

As a rule of thumb, if something is affecting your life, it is time to seek help. Ie if you get pain, but can manage with over the counter medication, ok. But if you can’t go to work, can’t manage day to day stuff, then you need help.

I agree ref PMDD. See your GP again. Perhaps ask the surgery if they have anyone who specialises in PMT etc.

Write down your symptoms and take it with you to GP.

Start writing down how you feel everyday during each month or download an app.

Best of luck. You may need to be a bit more persistent.

@Bemyclementine Yes, I have and it has always been much worse if not on some types of hormonal contraception. I'm late 30s.

Following as I have this the week leading up to my period, I'm mid thirties and it has only been an issue since I've had kids, but I honestly feel suicidal, angry, overwhelmed and quite manic for about 4 days, then my period arrives and I am back to normal. I haven't been to the doctors as im not sure what to say so have no advice but am following your post.

Hope you find something that works for you soon.