Noise from neighbours

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The soundproofing is apparently non existent between myself and next door but in addition to this, their door slamming and loud voices dont help. I feel like I live in the same house as them. I hear the lightswitch go on (clear, not muffled), their conversations - not always word for word but if its late at night then I can clearly hear their conversations. They seem to enjoy lengthy phone calls, perhaps they are shouted across the room. I’m just tired of it and feeling like I know their every move but mainly having to follow their sleep (or lack of) patterns. Being kept awake til midnight/woken during the early hours at the weekend listening to talking/shrieking style laughs. I am a light sleeper so that doesn’t help. I now put my tv on louder to drown them out and use white/brown noise but I wonder if there are other suggestions. I have tried earbuds but they hurt my ears so can’t sleep in them. I have put a polite note through the door and knocked and explained and the person was polite back and “oh no, oh dear” but nothing has changed really. It isn’t ridiculously loud constant parties but it is affecting me. Any advice appreciated!

How about using a white noise machine to muffle the sound so at least the conversation don't draw you in and the sound is consistent.

Quies wax earplugs are so comfortable.

I’ve lived like this, it made me physically and mentally ill.
Nothing worked and, in desperation, we did move to a detached wreck of a house we could ill afford. My nerves are still shattered and my anxiety is horrendous, even 6 years on.
The only advice I can give is to move. Sorry you are dealing with this.

I could’ve written this myself. I was even having dreams that my neighbours had moved in with me and were decorating ( fugly wallpaper) .. honestly what saves my sanity is Loop Quiet earplugs. I have weirdly tiny ear canals, so if I find them comfortable I’m sure most people would. Really can’t recommend them enough - and yes you can sleep in them too - sympathies though, I know how bad it is

Move. It’s the only way it’ll solve your issues. We could hear our next door neighbours conversations, coughs, sneezes, phone ringing, microwave beeping.

They could hear our toddlers tantrums and foot stomping and thought banging on the wall was reasonable retaliation despite there being nothing we could do as the walls were paper thin.

We moved to a detached house.

I live next to a stompy bastard whose voice can travel to the other side of my house. I hate the fact that I hate her so much. We're planning to move.

My house is like this, I dread to think what my neighbour thinks with a toddler and hyper 6yo but I hear her lenthy phone conversations, tv, plugging things in. If you can hear light switches I'd imagine the neighbours can hear you just much. Could you sound proof?

Thanks all, funnily its the loop quiet earbuds I have and they hurt my ears even with the smallest bit inside my ear… and i can still hear them anyway, just a bit more muffled. I am sure they can hear me hoover etc but i am a fairly quiet person anyway. I never slam the door, never have loud long conversations. Wouldn’t dream of making noise, coming in crashing around with or without friends during the night time. If it was just light switches, hoovering and normal sounds i would be fine with it. Other people have lived next door and some have been as I imagine I am, almost impossible to hear and some have been like this lot (or worse!). I hate that i am having to make noise to drown them out. They are regular in my mind… are they home? Are they coming late? Will they wake me up with a loud 2 minute conversation and therefore I’ll be up being cross till 3am while they merrily get to sleep after a night out… will they bring friends home and start shrieking at 1am. You start to feel obsessed and they arent horrendous neighbours, they are just oblivious noisy people in a place with bad soundproofing. I cant afford to move anywhere in the nearby vicinity. It would likely have to be a total start all over again relocation. I do dream of this though. The comfort of knowing you are going home after a long and tiring day to peace. Instead I wonder what the weekend will bring. I will definitely buy a couple of white noise machines. I wish i could find one that i could sleep through. When i try playing such sounds through a device i can fall asleep but then it wakes me around 3am. Solidarity to others experiencing similar.

I use these too and now don't have to wake up when next door's children do. They were also a lifesaver in the garden during the summer and gave me such peace.

I can also confirm these are excellent. I warm them in my hands for a couple of minutes first to make them pliable and then mould them to the shape of my ear. They're comfortable to sleep in and block out so much noise.

I will try the quies. Are they the wax mouldable ones that has some sort of cotton wool looking cover? I have also just seen that boots do a sleep earbud set for £79 hours that you have to get ear impressions made for. I will ask about this - perhaps they will not hurt if impressions are taken.

You've told them so they know they are noisy. And it's not normal to come home screeching in the early hours. They are selfish.

I had the worst 17 months of my life with 2 sets of noisy neighbours and it did a number on my health. You sound like you are getting there as well because it's all you can think of.

I reported one side and she just wouldn't stop.

I moved and its taken me 3 years to feel well.

I do hope you can move

Thank you user. Yes, I do think perhaps they are a bit selfish when i told her how much it had taken me to knock on her door. I have had really awful neighbours in the past, once here (another neighbour struggled with them too) and once in another place. Somehow i never seem to be free from this - im talking about people house sharing and having very loud gatherings all night - I did move from the other place. I absolutely couldn’t handle it a d couldn’t get away from their noise ever. So this seems and is a hundred times more bearable than having a bunch of backpackers living next to you but still. I also remind myself that I am lucky that other neighbours around me are decent.

Just thinking. Yiu did say you can hear them switch on a switch . So it does sound like a sound proofing issue.

Is it your house? Can you insulate it? A friend had this problem in a new build terrace. Walls like tissue. She insulated her lounge wall, which adjoined next doors,with a sort of heavy Curtain- a full wall length affair-like a fabric wall such as you might find in an old cinema. It worked surprisingly well.

Simple two answers to this if your happy in the area invest in a complete professional soundproofing company to do all your wall's properly which will be expensive but worth it or move to a detached house which will be even more expensive because it will never go away unless you get new neighbours who could actually be worse, good neighbours are thin on the ground in today's selfish society !