Grandparent dying - telling the kids

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My DH cares for my MIL and she's now coming towards the end of her life. Her GP said today it's likely weeks. She lives at home by herself so my husband will be round much more. The palliative team etc is involved and care will be ramping up.

Our children are 7 and 10. The 7 year old is very sensitive and has been going through a period lately of worrying about death. This ebbs and flows although last night he came downstairs crying saying he's been thinking about dying again.

I'm not sure how much to tell them at this point. This will be their first death of a close family member. I want to try and get this right as the death of my grandmother at my eldest's age is something I remember clearly.

Does anyone have any advice?

I ordered Badger's Parting Gifts and had a read. I haven't read it to the kids yet.

DH has been at his mum's constantly over the past few days which led into a conversation with the children about how ill she is but I didn't go into detail.

The thing that's holding me back is if I tell the youngest and she wants to see them I'm concerned the youngest will be really upset at the thought of going and worried about what he'll see.

I just want to do the right thing

I spoke to the school today who said they'll keep it in mind and that there's no right or wrong way to deal with it.

Think I need to call some charities about it for advice.