My first ever post on here, so bear with me. It's kind of a philosophical question.
Is charisma learned or inherited? How can I help my kids grow up to be charismatic, confident adults? I think life will be generally easier for them if they are.
Background - I consider myself to be a decent, friendly, polite person, generally a bit introverted. Reasonably successful in my career due to consistent hard work over many years, but by no means a high flyer. Other people seem to sail through life with opportunities falling into their laps, or getting people to do things for them, without seeming to put in nearly as much effort as I would have to to achieve the same. Recent example - the company I work for has a client who is a charismatic character, but is a total pain in the a**e to work for because disorganised and slightly shady. My boss got him in for a meeting to tell him we could no longer do his work...but ended up being charmed by him, and she was persuaded to take on MORE work! I can think of lots of examples like this, both male and female, where warm, charming individuals appear to glide through life.
I feel like it's too late for me to "learn" charisma (you either have it or you don't?), but is there hope for my kids? I'm all in favour of working hard for what you want, but I would like them to struggle a little less than I have.