I am so sad. My 18 year old daughter started college this year its local and she is living at home. In June she asked me if her boyfriend could live here to go to college too. This is one of the nicest kids I have ever met, hes lovely but from a really messed up homelife, think addicted mother, taken into care then raised by a grandmother who didnt want to raise him, totally chaotic home etc. He found his father and was going to move in with him but he died of cancer within a year of them meeting. Kid never expected to actually live to 18. He is trying so hard to change thins he doesn't drink or do drugs in any form.
I was reluctant to allow this as hes from a different sate and if they broke up he would lose his home and school and basically his future if he had to move out of here. I was told they were friends enough that even if they broke up they could navigate this.
Well sunday they had a stupid fight, nothing serious, they have always been kind and respectful to each other and my daughter told him to leave. He packed up everything he owns and is now on a friends floor back in his home state. He wants to fix things, my daughter did too until a "friend" obviously had a word and now she doesnt.
I have to respect that this is my daughters home but I want the boyfriend to come back, he doesnt deserve to lose everything due to a stupid fight. She doesnt want him living here any more either. I dont care that there is no relationship, they were too young anyways in my opinion. He had his own room here, I have plenty space etc.
I have literally been crying for days cos my heart is broken for him. My older daughter is like tell her she signed up for this and will have to deal with it but I dont want her to think im picking him over her. I just dont now what to do.
I have a soft spot for teens, Ive had many of my older kids friends move in here over the years. I hate the thought of them being homeless and having no chance in life. I am just so sad