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What would you say to this scenario?

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Frosty1000 · 01/11/2023 18:47

Just looking for your thoughts on the best wording to use ......

I did pick up today for my yr 4 child, had to ask the teacher something random about PE, she answered and wished me a great evening - all good.

I get a random message this afternoon from another mum telling me the teacher had to tell my child off today for saying her child's school photo was creepy.

Then she went into an essay about how this was not the first time my child had been unkind, her child was upset etc. She referred to an incident the previous day where my child allegedly said they were going to slap this other child. I responded to say I'd chat about it and would let her know.

So I had a chat. I was told that yes they had commented on school photo, didn't say creepy but was talked to by teacher, apologised and moved on.

They said they don't really interact with other child so no other incidents in class. I asked about the slap and they said it definitely wasn't them, yes they were playing tag but no words other than tag you're it were exchanged. The look on their face said it all and I believe them. They did say it must have been X instead but no idea if true. My child said that it was a lie.

I'm in the camp of if you've made a mistake you own it so yes photo incident was an error but teacher dealt with it so other than reminder that we upset someone with our words and to think before speaking, I'm not going to do anything else.

But this is where I need advice, how can I say to other mum what her child said isn't true without it sounding like I'm saying they're lying/telling tales?

What would you say if this were you?

Thanks!

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LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 01/11/2023 19:00

"Dear angry mum. I believe that the school is dealing with behaviour appropriately. I suggest you contact the teacher. They are best placed to see what is happening."
I would definitely speak to the teacher though just to be sure what actually happened.

Ilovelurchers · 01/11/2023 19:07

I'd say it's being dealt with by the teachers and you'd prefer her not to use your personal mobile number for stuff like this. Then I would block her.

If your child has been carrying out a horrendous campaign of bullying against hers then I see her point in messaging you I guess. But over a couple of petty, minor incidents - it's inappropriate. (Plus she is giving her child a ridiculous message and encouraging them to get normal childhood occurrences out of all proportion - but that's not your problem unless she makes it so. Try hard not to let her!)

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