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I have a drunk teenager...

59 replies

theluckiest · 31/10/2023 23:19

I've collected him (Uber wouldn't take him).

He's been sick. I've changed his sheet, given him a pint of water, put him to bed..

So worried about him vomiting in the night.

We'll talk tomorrow. He was only at the party for 2 hours!!! His lovely friends called me and told me what a state he was in.

We talked before the party. He swore blind he would be sensible. Well... that totally didn't happen. We've tried to be open and have a good relationship..

How would you tackle the morning after?

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lilyroseabell · 31/10/2023 23:26

He's probably been mixing his drinks hence the vomiting. If he's anything like my son was he'll be put off doing it again when the hangover kicks in. How old is he?

NotObligedToArgueWithStrangers · 31/10/2023 23:29

I think the blazing hangover will probably do the job for you. Teenagers do like to learn the hard way.

RedDiamond · 31/10/2023 23:29

I remember getting a phone call from my DD's friends telling me that she was drunk. It was something like party in the park day and they had had a drink with everyone they knew on the playing field. I drove to pick her up. Friends were really grateful as they were worried for her. She felt terrible the next day. I did not rant and rave, I cuddled her and said was it really worth it?

With teenagers they want to experiment. They also have no idea how much/how little it will take to make them drunk. Of course they say they will never do it again...

Pinkpinkplonk · 31/10/2023 23:30

Oh dear, they have to learn!
Hopefully you won’t have to say too much, he’ll feel awful enough to work it out for himself.
A good dose of humour does help though….. lay out the paracetamol for breakfast etc……

theduchessofspork · 31/10/2023 23:32

The hangover will do that job!

PTSDBarbiegirl · 31/10/2023 23:32

It's a learning curve. Tonight I'd check on him and try to prop him on his side by pushing a pillow at his back and one to pull his knee up on, to keep him on his side. Tomorrow he will be feeling awful but stress about his supportive friends, how glad you are that his friends are open and felt they could call you and you'd help him. Let him know we all make mistakes and move on. He won't be so quick to do it again.

jlpth · 31/10/2023 23:33

When you say only 2 hours, it's easy to get drunk in a few minutes. All you need is a few shots of something.

How old is he? Does he understand alcohol varies re how many units is in a certain volume? Lots don't. Lots don't understand that the amount of alcohol in a little shot of vodka is equivalent to the amount in half a pint of beer.

Original poster
theluckiest · 31/10/2023 23:34

He's 16.

I recall doing much the same at his age. His dad will not be happy but what can you do!!

We'll have a chat in the morning. Over paracetamol and a bacon sandwich!!

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Pinkpinkplonk · 31/10/2023 23:35

And a vomit bowl!!

Pinkpinkplonk · 31/10/2023 23:37

Honestly Just laugh at him!
Then explain about units/ food/ watching people spiking in a few days when he feels better.

NancyJoan · 31/10/2023 23:37

Don’t be cross. If he’s anything like my DD, he will be fearing the wrath of mum as soon as he wakes up. Talk to him about it in the morning, but calmly. He got carried away, drank too much and then experienced the consequences. At least he’s at home, and has lovely friends.

For tonight, I’d possibly sleep in with him if he’s really drunk (but he might not be, teens teen to mix drinks, which makes them sick very quickly)

Pinkpinkplonk · 31/10/2023 23:41

Also he’s 16, he has a very young liver and metabolism, it won’t have taken anywhere near as many units as you think to make him sick.
My eldest was sick all the next day after her first encounter with drink, she laughs about it now. Cried at the time though as we all laughed at her running to the loo!!

CreationNat1on · 31/10/2023 23:41

Bucket beside his bed.

snackatack · 31/10/2023 23:55

Lie him in the recovery position to sleep - i know that sounds daft - but if he is sick he wont choke on his vomit

WeightWhat · 31/10/2023 23:59

Depending on how out of it he is, I would stay with him.

VeridicalVagabond · 01/11/2023 00:03

Be kind, his hangover won't be. We've all been there at some point, they've got to learn. Be thankful his friends are gooduns and called you instead of drawing dicks on his head and posting pictures on Instagram. Bacon, tea and a gentle word about pacing yourself.

When I was a teen if any of my pals went really west drunk we'd put them to sleep on their side and prop them up like that with pillows and whatever so they couldn't roll onto their back. Shove them with their back against a wall if we could. Just in case they puked in the night, better it be all over the bed than all in the windpipe. So maybe make sure he's on his side before you go to bed.

truetruebarneymcgrew · 01/11/2023 00:09

I remember my dad telling me "grain and grape, should never date". I didn't really understand until one night I mixed the two, the next day I had arranged to meet a friend for an early morning ride, I felt a bit green whilst tacking up, and then after a particularly fast trot, I spewed big time. Poor horse was not impressed, and cleaning my poor boy and then all the tack, and finally myself was the only lesson I needed...I didn't touch alcohol for several years, and now only have a glass very occasionally.

truetruebarneymcgrew · 01/11/2023 00:13

Op if he's chundered he'll probably be okay, but try and make sure he's sleeping on his side, not lying on his back. I'm sure he'll be fine (well might have a cracking headache in the morning and dodgy guts).

capabilityfrowns · 01/11/2023 00:20

Make sure he's on his side and keep checking on him . Right of passage !

LaviniasBigBloomers · 01/11/2023 00:21

Bright and breezy and not too sympathetic. He needs to get up for school or whatever, but I'd be on hand with paracetamol and a hug.

Ultimately you want to encourage the positive behaviour (his friends phoned you) so I wouldn't put a rocket up his arse or anything like that. I'd just let natural consequences take over.

Snowdayplease · 01/11/2023 00:25

Is his sickness a "one and done" or an all night long type? Mine did this recently and I sat up with him - he very randomly sat up and vomited multiple times so I was glad I was with him, he want coherent enough to lean away from the bed or into a bucket (except that I held it under his face). Only been a few months but there hasn't been a repeat 🤞

SM4713 · 01/11/2023 00:25

Put him in the recovery position!

Line towels against the side of the bed and across the floor. Add a bucket, with paper toilets inside next to the bed, on the towels.

AdoraBell · 01/11/2023 00:26

In the morning, water, paracetamol and bacon sandwich if he can eat. Is he at school?

Pinkpinkplonk · 01/11/2023 07:50

@theluckiest How’s he feeling this morning ?

curaçao · 01/11/2023 09:13

When you are young, you dont seem yo get hangovers though.