This isn't an imminent problem but one that I've been thinking about for a while and one I'd like to be clear about before it comes up.
My partner and I are in our 40s/50s and have been together for a couple of years. We met through a hobby few years ago. He did this hobby with some friends.
One of the men is one of his oldest friends of 30+ years.
We have discussed getting married in the future. This man would be his natural choice as Best Man. My partner would want him to be invited at the very least and has said as much.
The problem is that this man really doesn't like me. We used to get on well enough but there was a bit of an issue last year, I stood up for myself, he didn't like it and refused to discuss it with me so that we could resolve it.
To begin with, when we bumped into him, we'd say hi and be civil but the last few times I've seen him, he has completely blanked me. I even tried speaking to him last time - just a How's it going? and he totally ignored me.
Their friendship has dwindled in recent months because of this. They still get on fine but they rarely see each other anymore. That's not because of me - the issue is between me and him I don't expect my partner to get involved but it is because of me because their friendship wouldn't have changed if it hadn't been for the falling out.
However, I wouldn't feel comfortable with him being at my wedding if we were to marry. I don't want him to be invited.
Is that wrong of me?