Women in STEM - I resent it (and some other things)

[DollyMatrix]

Please don’t send hate, this is just thinking out loud…

So, both my DD and I are women in STEM, for me accidental career path, an imposter. For her, it’s life’s calling. No barriers for entry or progression for either of us, and we are far from privileged background.

My beef is as follows. Is “encouraging” girls into STEM another bastard job patriarchy is pushing us to take on? Who is encouraging men into nursing or caregiving etc, at least on the same scale? All we see is admiration for men becoming SAHD…

When women wanted to go into workforce, surely it was intended to be an option rather than expectation? Find me a man who will truly satisfy my financial needs , treat me loyally and kindly and allow me to be housewife. No, they want us working and doing housework, still factually most of it. And now they are encouraging us into specific industries.

Great to have options but there are not any - the rights are so equal, that we do more work than ever, still in bras, open our own doors, share the driving and get sworn in front of.

WTAF?

omg, YADBextremelyU

There must be something wrong with me for hanging out on MN. What a bunch of male-haters

When women wanted to go into workforce, surely it was intended to be an option rather than expectation? Find me a man who will truly satisfy my financial needs , treat me loyally and kindly and allow me to be housewife.

Please don’t presume to speak for any other woman with your fantasies of permanent infantilisation.

Why is not working only meant to be an option for women? Could men not say they’re disadvantaged by it not being socially acceptable for them to live off their partner?
I did watch my mum work full time and do everything at home as well and I swore I would never do the same. And I haven’t - I hate housework, thankfully don’t care if people judge me for that and therefore have a DH who has no choice but to get stuck in at home.
i think it’s great to see women in STEM.

I rather like the financial and personal independence of my STEM career, thank you very much. I certainly don't want to be dependent upon the dubious charity of some bloke who could, at any point, dump me for a younger model.

You're spot on with your third paragraph. As well as breaking into male dominated arenas, women also have to do the donkey work of encouraging other women to follow them - they have to arrange internships, conferences, social media campaigns. Rather than just getting on with our jobs. And you're right male nurses, teaching assistants etc aren't expected to also be role models for other males, and to do all the heavy lifting that entails.