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Pmdd can anyone help

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Wonkydonkey2 · 29/10/2023 17:45

I suffer with pmdd currently going through a stressful time with a few illnesses flaring up and bad pmdd. I’m currently lying on my bed in a dark room crying. I’ve been so angry and emotional about lots of stuff it’s really draining me im constantly on edge for no reason feeling useless. My husband and I have had a few discussions where he’s probably tried to be funny and I’ve just bitten his head off. I feel so awful about my behaviour but no matter how hard I try I can’t help it. I’ve walked off to calm down a few times but that isn’t always possible. I’ve just come off some antidepressants as they weren’t helpful the side effects were awful and I didn’t need them except before my period. I don’t no how to help it I just can’t be around my loving husband he’s honestly amazing. Then my pmdd starts I feel so angry towards him and become sensitive to anything he says. I need help

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watermelonsugar56 · 29/10/2023 18:21

Hello love, I have had episodes of this too and am so sorry to hear you’ve been going through it. It’s a dreadful thing, thinking of you 💐

A friend of mine successfully treated hers by eventually going through a homeopathic doctor if this is something you haven’t done/would consider. Whatever she was prescribed completely zapped it xx

Pinkflamingopants · 29/10/2023 18:29

Hello. I have been diagnosed with PMDD too. I’ve had CBT therapy which actually really helped me in keeping (some) control over my emotions. I found the best thing to keep it under control is healthy diet and exercise throughout the month, and magnesium for sleep. No alcohol at all in the week before my period is due. All things that are tough to maintain when feeling PMT-y but they are worth it for avoiding the suicidal meltdown every month.

I would also recommend seeing a homeopath. I’ve not tried for hormones, but had incredible success with eczema and other imbalance related issues.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 29/10/2023 19:52

You poor woman, went through for years and the week or so before my period I was like a different person. I just got exhausted, and migraines and so clumsy and things I would usually cope with I could not. Fecking hormones are a b*stard. Felt so low and mood would just drop was just awful. Please go back to your doctor and ask to see a specialist so you can get the right treatment that suits you. Do you have a wellwoman/family planning clinic there that have doctors who treat this. I suffered for years but now going through peri-meno& thyroid issues. Anyway the thing I found did help was if I did not have any sugar/chocolate and all the crap you crave at that time. Try to get few walks in also as it does help. But please go back to your doctor as so hard when feeling like this and I remember I just wanted to be alone and unable to cope and as soon as got my period would feel mood lift. Sending big hugs as so awful going through this and life revolving around periods. xx

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Wonkydonkey2 · 29/10/2023 23:47

Thank you I have tried homeopathy in the past and didn’t work for my other illnesses I will have to try it again I go to the gym 3 times a week and have a limited but healthy ish diet. I just can’t seem to get over how much I change and can’t control my emotions and how I act. I feel so drained

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marmiteloversunite · 30/10/2023 00:20

My DD has pmdd and the Mirena coil has really helped her. I know it is marmite and much discussed on here but she now only has 1/2 days of being down around her period and one day when ovulating. Before this she was tearful and terribly anxious for at heady ten days around her period to the point if staying in bed and just crying. She can get through the 2 days now as she knows it's a short window and she will feel better again. Before this she tried various contraceptives and sertraline.

It's horrible for both you and those trying to support you.

Gilead · 30/10/2023 00:26

help
dd finds a combined pill helpful. Please don’t go the homeopathic route it’s a waste of money and only produces a placebo effect, which as shown here can be pretty powerful but if it’s not worked before, it’s less likely to now.

DeceitfulMummy · 30/10/2023 04:29

Cerazette. Or I guess any other pill - keeps your hormones balanced.

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Wonkydonkey2 · 30/10/2023 09:50

I can’t take any form of pill due to the side effects the hormones make me throw up constantly. We are also trying for a baby other wise I would try the coil.

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BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 31/10/2023 00:16

I would try a strict diet before period say 10 days before, brown rice, tuna, lots of protein, veg, no processed or sugary foods, extra water. Mine was always better the months I eat more healthy, I would go and see your doctor and try to get a referral to a specialist as it is required. I loved been pregnant as felt great no hormonal crap and no periods. Take care of yourself..

haribosmarties · 31/10/2023 00:31

What really helped me was a calander. Keep a record of your cycles and after a while you'll get a picture of when this usually kicks in. You'll then have reasonably clear dates that you know will be difficult for you but that you can plan for. Keep these dates each month as stress free as possible. Do not plan events or social activities on these days, do not make any big decisions or have any important conversations on these dates. Keep a calming routine such as going for a solo walk in nature at a certain time each of these days... avoid caffiene, too much sugar and alcohol on these dates and make sure you are getting to bed early.
Basically just be kind to yourself on these dates... you are ill. You'll be through it in a matter of days and back to normal.
It's easier said than done and I know how dark it feels but you've just got to remind yourself it isn't permanent and this isn't really you and you must be kind and patient with yourself at these times.
It feels unfair to have to put in such work and not just be able to power thru or take some magic cure that makes it dissappear.. but unfortunately pmdd is very difficult to treat.

LillieLoo · 31/10/2023 00:37

It's truly awful!

I'm now on Mirena coil + oestrogen 150. A good GP should be able to start you off....I got these guidelines after being on a PMDD Facebook group x

LillieLoo · 31/10/2023 00:38

LillieLoo · 31/10/2023 00:37

It's truly awful!

I'm now on Mirena coil + oestrogen 150. A good GP should be able to start you off....I got these guidelines after being on a PMDD Facebook group x

Sorry-here they are-good luck! ❤️

www.pms.org.uk/app/uploads/2018/06/guidelinesfinal60210.pdf

J316 · 31/10/2023 00:49

marmiteloversunite · 30/10/2023 00:20

My DD has pmdd and the Mirena coil has really helped her. I know it is marmite and much discussed on here but she now only has 1/2 days of being down around her period and one day when ovulating. Before this she was tearful and terribly anxious for at heady ten days around her period to the point if staying in bed and just crying. She can get through the 2 days now as she knows it's a short window and she will feel better again. Before this she tried various contraceptives and sertraline.

It's horrible for both you and those trying to support you.

I also had some success with mirena coil after being diagnosed by gynaecologist. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s a nightmare and almost impossible to control your emotions and then you’re left feeling guilty for all the nasty things you’ve said. If you haven’t seen one already, ask to be referred to gynaecologist and maybe consider a different antidepressant 💛

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