Velcro baby starting to seriously get me down

[AliceAbsolum]

DD is 11 months, she's been a velcro baby since day 1. It's got to the stage now where I can't turn away from her without her screaming. I'm so touched out but the alternative is screams so loud it hurts my ears.
I'm trying to return to work but she screams. Trying to get out of the house is a nightmare as she screams while I'm putting on my shoes etc. Everything I do is a stressful rush. I just need some time away but DH works and she won't be left with anyone without screaming.
How do I manage? I'm on my knees

Not much help, just wanted to let you know your certainly not alone. I had a velcro baby who's now a velcro toddler. She depends on you for everything and she doesn't know if you'll come back when you walk out that door.

Going back to work is a huge change for you both and it will take some time to adjust to. You do get there though and whilst her personality won't change her independence will grow and they'll be more interesting things for her to look at then you (meant in the nicest way possible 😂). Just give yourself time, give her the biggest smile and wave and walk out door knowing no matter how big the meltdown she'll for about it in a minute anyway.

*forget

Thank you! I have a feeling she will be a clingy toddler

DD2 was a clingy baby. At 2yo she was the sort of toddler that I got out of the car to take into a party and said "don't worry mummy, I can go in on my own." (no she didn't).

She went from being very clingy to very independent quickly.

Ear defenders ?

That's interesting. I'm hopeful she's secure enough that she'll get to that independent stage.

Clear routine is key. Most things in her life need to be consistent and happen at the same times. Protect bedtime and sleep. Lots of outside time and physical activity in the day. She may be neurodiverse, she may not be, but in both cases consistency so she understands if you go you will come back. Dad needs to step in and spend quality time with her.