Not coping tonight

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my 2 month old has a cold and I’ve been up with her for 2 nights now. I feel like I can’t do this anymore, I desperately need sleep.

me and my partner have an agreement where I sleep in the evening and morning and take the night, but she was feeding all evening so I haven’t slept at all. Now the morning is almost here and I know she will need feeding again. I have been in tears for hours.

my partner has not been supportive tonight, he is sick of me crying all the time but I can’t help it. This is absolute hell and I need a partner to comfort and support me but I don’t have one.

im just here to rant really

How far away do your parents live? If he won’t allow you to go to your parents hand baby over to partner and you go to your parents to sleep.

You need to go home now. He can fume all he wants but you have to look after yourself. He's not looking after you.

Well if he's not going to step up, you have no alternative. I'd make that clear to him today.

Raise the top half of the mattress. Try a bottle at night. She's too tired to feed properly. If she's not feeding the whole time she has a cold. That's surely a problem. Can't go for days with very little food. Neither can you go for days with no sleep. Not worth falling out with your DH over. If you are crying all day. It's way too much. Should not be that hard. Or express. If you don't want to bottle feed. That's easier for baby and DH can then help.

Is she's feeding all day. Maybe try a dummy. Might be for comfort.

Bloody hell it’s all about him isn’t it! He’s no “partner”. 😡

How are you today OP?

Really struggling. Slept for about 3 hours while he did a bottle feed but it feels like nothing. Trying to go back to bed some time today but dh says I need to eat which is prob true. Then we are going to have a discussion about the relationship because I can’t keep going as I am!!

honestly I feel like I’m at breaking point

I think a week away at your parents with baby will give you some perspective try and get him to agree to this as at the moment he wants everything on his own terms.

Thanks everyone. I am seeing if my mum can come to us. She works FT so it’s not easy but she is willing to try!

Hang in there. Keep on here too. Hooe you have a good day today x

If your baby sleeps best on you prob best to just stay in bed with her sleeping on you propped up. Make sure everything is set up so you can fall asleep. Your dh can bring you stuff/ hold her while you go to the loo etc.
Personally I would hold of the relationship talk for now. It will make things a lot more stressful and start an argument. Leave it till you’re all feeling better.

Agreements have to flex and change with baby's changes. My husband and I have a split night thing with our 3 month old, but if I need more sleep as I have an early driving lesson next day he does the full night etc. Obvs easier for us as hes formula fed due to cmpa. Husband needs to respond to your needs especially as you're breastfeeding!

Regarding not being put down so your husband cant have her during day, have you tried her in sling or carrier? Really helps getting things done, and putting her somewhere safe to cry for a min while using the loo is totally fine too so can't see why he can't gave her. Sleep is the most important thing right now, lack of destroys you physically and mentally, I really hope he starts to understand that. I can't believe he's 'sick of seeing you cry', that's you desperately crying for help and he's not! Big hugs, it's such a hard time x