Unmotivated friend

[MANT]

A friend of mine whom I've known for 50 years since childhood has for the last 12 years refused to work refuses to buy a smart phone, doesnt drive and leaves everything to his partner. His partner of 40 years ( known her since he was a teenager) told me she feels like a single parent. I tried to help but he's not interested. Any advice would be appreciated or shoukd I just give up.

I'd give up to be honest, it's between them. Nobody is obliged to stay with someone who behaves this (or any other) off-putting or unreasonable way. I'd be reminding her of that if anything but wouldn't expect the situation to change.

He's not going to change after decades of getting away with it, won't want to change because clearly this is how he prefers it (utterly grim) and from the sounds of it, unless there is more to it and he is abusive, she is ultimately accepting it by remaining in situ. I'd desperately want better for any friend of mine and would want her to leave and reclaim her life but people have to make their own decisions and we have to accept that.

He's actually a kind faithfull man and loving caring dad not at all abusive but stubborn. I've really tried to help him with job offers inspire him but to know avail. He does help around the house but his partner has to work alot to support the family even though their children are old enough to notwarrant childcare. I guess he prefers daytime TV. He does complain about having to be very careful with their budget they lead a frugal life due to his reluctance to work. Hes a good friend but I do want to tell to stop being such a lazy fker. He's become so different to me I love worklng hard at work DIY and gardening and to see one of my oldest friends become so.lazy is painfull. I've also offered to help him in all that I state ..but no he doesn't want it. So I'll stop encouraging him.