Anyone work in a nursery know if staff have access to this information?

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Would a nursery know I don’t have a partner by having access to my tax free childcare application/account?

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I don't know but they wouldn't bat an eyelid if you're a single parent.

i can’t see how - they just receive the payments.

No idea. But surely they'll know if you only fill in 1 parent?

Imo nursery staff need to know who a child lives with. Who is involved in child's life.

But they should also know who has permission to collect the child etc.

Do you not want them to know?

I don’t think they have access? They just receive payments from them don’t they?

Yes exactly this - no idea what they see through HMRC, but they need to know about your DC and their home life.

I can't imagine they'd have access to your application or account, no. They might know from a whole number of other ways though I guess.

Surely they would know when you fill out the contact details. They would notice only one name. I can’t imagine anyone giving one single toss though.

No not tfc.

Your parent declaration for 30 hours funded will though.

And your child's registration forms should also tell them.

It's no big deal though.

When you fill in the application and admissions form it will ask for parents details. The admin person will therefore see if only one parent is filled in or if parents have different addresses. They won't bay an eyelid. All families are different. Some children live with just mum or just dad. Some live with 2 mums, or mum and grandma. Some split their time between 2 households.

During settling in the child's teacher or key person will ask about important people i your child's life. This isn't to be nosy but to ensure activities are planned sensitively.

Thanks

We are in the process of splitting so he is moving out soon. I didn’t want them to think I had lied to them but as it is still raw, I also didn’t want to raise it just now.

Op in those circumstances they absolutely need to know. There's every chance that the change will unsettle your lo and they need to know to expect that.

@Lizzt2007 our child is only 7 months. They have no idea and will still see us both. I am not ready to talk to strangers about it.

I understand it's still raw but please tell them in confidence. Even very tiny children pick up on changes at home and it can impact their behaviour in nursery. Staff can help them far better if they know what's happening. No need for lots of detail, but please tell them.

I promise that they will very quickly not be strangers, it will be in your child's interests for them to know what's happening at home.

I would tell them OP, your child may be more unsettled as their current routine/familiarity is changing. It will be something they see happen regularly, and will want to support your child.

Of course they won't think you lied to them OP. I know it must feel weird telling people - especially people you currently don't know well - but it's really important for your little one's well being that they know.

Hope you're as OK as you can be. 💐

Please tell them it will help them support your child and if needed you.

Send an email if you can't face saying it in person. They will be sympathetic and if your LO needs more cuddles they will understand.