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Should I have communicated?

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Moneybags2023 · 26/10/2023 13:14

Am I in the wrong here. I think I actually may be.

Anyway my son is 16 his boyfriend is 17. His boyfriend spends quite alot of time here staying over etc.

Most recently he's been here almost a week. His older brother messaged him to say are you at xxx he replied yes. Then a few days ago his mum messaged said she needs help with shopping . So he done that and came back. Nothing was said about him staying here or that he should be home.

Anyway yesterday I got a message from his mum that said you need to send zzz home. You should not be letting him stay you need to send him home. She seemed annoyed. Anyway I said OK I will tell him.

So I said to zzz has your mum said she wants you home he said no. He's not heard from her since she asked for help with shopping them I said well she sent me a message saying you nneed o go home . Then he was a bit annoyed that she had not messaged him.

I just made the assumption it was ok since she knew where he was. She had not messaged me to say anything different and nothing was said when he helped his mum with shopping. Or when the brother asked where he was.

Should I have checked with her when she wanted him home or should she have let me know?

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EmptyYoghurtPot · 26/10/2023 13:22

He’s 17, not 7! It’s not up to you to let his mum know where he is. Maybe next time suggests he texts her now and then but sound more like she is jealous they prefer to be at yours.

Moneybags2023 · 26/10/2023 13:44

EmptyYoghurtPot · 26/10/2023 13:22

He’s 17, not 7! It’s not up to you to let his mum know where he is. Maybe next time suggests he texts her now and then but sound more like she is jealous they prefer to be at yours.

I partly agree. I mean I would want to know where my son is even at 17. And teenagers are not most reliable for communicating. But she had not communicated with him either.

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