How to do hobbies with zero confidence

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I would love to do some hobbies. As in get really into something. I was creative as a child and teenager and got quite good at music (just guitar and recorder, there weren't really other options at school) and art but found it hard to keep up as I got older thanks to my now diagnosed ADHD. I found it hard to keep on top of lessons, practice and coursework.

Teachers commented on my ability but got very frustrated with my disorganisation and lateness.

Not their fault but the criticism affected my confidence especially one very disparaging teacher who also made a pass at me and ramped up the shit when i turned him down.

I was also crap at sports (well, speed and coordination) and bullied for this including my PE teacher and brother who I had to do a sport with every weekend for years.

I was also bullied through school for other reasons and my parents were very critical.

That's fine, but I have conflated it with being bad at everything and having no confidence to try any pursuit.

I tried a drawing group and loved it but it clashed with work.

My partner plays and sings but I would have no idea how to start again. I don't want to be seen or heard after so many years even by myself.

Not really sure what I'm asking other than how do I start again to love something? I've not been well and have a huge workload and just feel like I need something like creative and nice for me without it turning into being so self critical.

As in, how do I even start when other people are so good and confident? My brother for instance has loads of hobbies and just gets on with new things but I don't know where to start.

I'd recommend joining a choir. It's the most uplifting and confidence building thing, and you are always singing with others so it's easy to hide and not be heard, but still have fun and improve your singing. Lots of different community choirs around, most don't require reading music or any audition. If by chance you're in London or Kent have a look at soulchoirs.com
Also a great way to socialise with people.

Start small and maybe follow online tuition first to build confidence.

What type of thing would you like to do? Do you want to do it outside the home or indoors? Something like crochet is easy to learn at home. If you want yo try a sport lots of clubs now do walking versions so walking netball, walking rugby, walking football to help people get back into it. Once you've built up some confidence then you could join the regular group. Look on Eventbrite for any 'beginner' groups. Or maybe not a hobby but look at venues to see where hosts a quiz night, or pottery painting and booze, or adult art class and booze....that's what's run near me it's more to be social than yo be talented.

Thanks for answers! I love the sound of the art class and booze. Are there choirs where you don't have to be a great singer? Obv not a cathedral choir or anything like that. I feel like something artistic or musical, sport would have to be worked up to. In a social setting would be nice. If just have no idea how to pick up an instrument again, even my old guitar, I've forgotten totally. YouTube would be good to start.

Sorry, I know you mentioned soul choir and I will have a look but I associate soul music with the most incredible singers

I'm in two different choirs just in my small town and both are for anybody, no need to be an amazing singer at all. Depending what type of music you enjoy you're bound to find a local community choir that is welcoming. There's also rock choir which is a national franchise and similarly welcoming to all with any or no singing experience.

I joined a choir just over a year ago. Non auditioned. Don't have to read music.
We do songs from musicals, pop songs from 60s to present day, and Christmas songs. It has been so good for my mental health.