Child illness anxiety strikes again...

[YukoandHiro]

I've posted about this before as I really struggle with it but everyone's responses always help to calm me, and feel some solidarity, so I'm just posting again...

My 3yo has a bad fever this evening and it makes me so anxious. It comes down with medication and she's drinking/eating/talking and chatting/ responsive/no rash etc but she also says she feels "spinny" in her head and tummy which I think means dizzy/off balance.

She's supposed to be staying with her grandparents tomorrow night with her older sister as part of our half term arrangements but I'm not sure what to do.

Why do these things always strike at the worst time?

I find it so hard not to worry with fevers. I know they're natural. I just get so anxious.

Just feel like the nursery years are SO hard when they're constantly unwell.

Anyone else have a hard time being calm and rational when their kids get sick?

Bump...?

Just feel like shit again and it's so exhausting

I think her grandparents will be just as good as looking out for her as you would yourself, so try not to worry on that front.

If you're that worried, keep her home. Be very careful though that your anxiety is not spilling over into something that she or your older child will pick up on. That's not fair. Kids get ill and you can't overreact every time because you have a duty of care to reassure them and put their feelings first. I’m sorry, but you need to deal with this for their sake.

Yes you're both right - I am very careful about what the kids see/hear of my anxiety but maybe it will be better if I sit 24 hours of this one out anyway. It takes a village etc. I know my parents will take very good care of her.

I used to panic with fevers until I came to understand that the fever is the body doing its job and is actually a good thing and doesn't necessarily even need medicating. My son had lots of high temperatures as a very young child that sent us to A&E a few times in a flap but when he turned 5 or so suddenly the fevers became few and far between and he's rarely even caught a cold since then.

Hi, I am a worrier/hypochondriac too and it’s so hard. I have no words of wisdom just wanted to let you know you’re not alone.

I have a meeting with a psychiatrist scheduled because I find getting triggered with every bug my kids or myself get actually makes everything worse, i get in a cycle where stress actually messes with my immune system and then start worrying about being sick. But mostly I have a hard time handling the back to back viruses my youngest brings back from day care .. we just arranged a referral bc we suspect he might have some sort of astma since being very ill with RSV 2 yrs ago. It’s never ending!