Birthday - Halloween - I think I might be sad.

[Silverdogblue]

It’s my birthday on Halloween. No one really cares, my mum is dead and as an alcoholic, never really cared anyway, my brother and I are minimal contact, my dad would only remember if I reminded him and my DH isn’t a birthday type. I’m not on facebook etc.

Whenever I see someone in fancy dress or a house where they’ve put decorations out, I always inwardly pretend they’ve done it to celebrate my birthday. Kind of like the King when they put the flags out in London.

Makes me smile to myself for a good 10 days or so and I say a silent thank you as I pass.

I suspect I’m a sad old woman.

Hi Silverdogblue. I will wish you a Happy Birthday on your Birthday and I'm sure a lot of others on mumsnet will do the same! What is your favourite cake and tipple? Ooh and course all the decorations are put out for you, who else would they be for!

I thought that you were going to say that the sight of celebrations.was a bit upsetting for you OP. I'm.really pleased that it's the opposite. A very, very happy Birthday to you when it comes 🥳

You should also start dressing in black with a cat and pointy hat and then it will honour you more!

I think this is cute, Happy birthday xxx

@Silverdogblue If nobody else will prioritise you, prioritise yourself. Do you have the money to do something nice? I'm sorry your family is complicated.

Decorate your home and leave treats for the local dc..

How wonderful you see joy in the decorations and bring that joy into your own internal world.

Why not treat yourself to something special this year? Something lovely just for you.

Huge happy birthday to you when it comes. You sound lovely.

This made me smile!! Gin. Largely. Not a huge fan of cake although would sink my whole head into a Victoria sponge given the chance.

myngrandmother used to make me a cherry sponge cake with marzipan petals and a porcelain figure on top which made it look like a ball gown. Bloody loved that. I bet I could make it. Thank you for bringing back that memory!!

You are so kind! I especially love the teeny tinies dressed up. Heart melting.

I would absolutely rock this look. I do have two, fairly highly driven Weimaraners but my view is that… they acknowledge the chickens are animals of special privileges so they would get used to a cat… one day.

In fact, when I was about 7, I had a joint birthday party with a friend and it was all witches etc and my family (farmers) got a cat. It was heavenly. Thank you for another memory!!

Sadly, have had huge emergency renovations on the house this month. But I might (will) treat myself to pancakes on Tuesday. Thank you!!

I have a wreath. It has bats on it. I love it but it’s not extravagant enough!!

🥰 thank you. I think I will take myself for breakfast and just appreciate having the morning to myself.

Make the cake it sounds delicious 😋 I got really really drunk on Gin when I was 16 at someone birthday party, but I'll toast you in a glass of vodka

I remember a vodka and orange exiting via my nose as a teenager so let’s stick to what we know!!!

Happy Birthday for Tuesday op 👻 x

Happy Halloween Birthday, it is my favourite time of year. Please do put your bat wreath out or up indoors and anything else you can decorate with. Can you afford a pumpkin so that you could put your birthday candle in it and make a wish when you blow it out instead of a cake?

There's only one way to handle this OP

Massive OTT Halloween porch treatment (I will do this too in your honour and tell the DC its for them but we'll know)

Tons of sweeties for the baby ghouls and witches

Tell DH to get a grip and take you for a birthday meal if your choice

You should probably wear a witch's hat all day

We will all be back to wish you a fucking brilliant birthday

@Silverdogblue Now I just keep thinking " what a waste of Vodka"!
@DesparatePragmatist Excellent idea

Bahahaa. Love coercing your kids into my celebrations. Will get a pumpkin tomorrow!!

DH has just been shamed by his best mate and his wife, managed to book the equivalent of the local harvester for Friday. At least it will be decorated and we will have a great time.

After years of being the “organiser” at work and at home, I’ve learnt that the lack of effort doesn’t say anything about me. It only sends messages about them. And there are far more important things to worry about.

Will get myself a pumpkin tomorrow. 😇