Fighting!

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Two boys, 8 and 5, one ND and the other likely (and if not, has a terrible temper and anger management issues). They fight so much. Sometimes the eldest has clearly wound the younger up (although it’s not hard, any slight sets him off) but often I don’t know what’s happened and I’m sure they’re equally to blame.

I’ve started giving a consequence of no screens after school if they fight on school mornings or on the school run, because it’s such a stress trigger for me and we just don’t have time for it.

Trouble is they are losing their screens nearly every day! And I’m not convinced it’s a worthwhile consequence given they’ve got to get through the school day before it takes effect, hardly immediate.

Do you give consequences for fighting? Help!

Watching with interest…

Screens help ND regulate though. You’re taking away is soothing process.

Do they share a screen?

Mine are all older so tend not to get in physical altercations so much but often it was for my attention and wanting me to take sides with one of them so I’d usually say I was going to lock them in a room and see who emerged the victor and that would diffuse it as they knew I wasn’t going to get involved.

I don’t know of many siblings who don’t fight so don’t worry it’s something you’re doing wrong or even have to prevent.

They don’t @ArseInTheCoOpWindow , after school they’re both allowed to choose what they want to watch and do so in separate rooms. DS1 especially needs the downtime as he has been in school all day, and does a lot of extra curricular activities, so he needs a bit of down time to regulate.

It’s the constant screaming @TootenCarMoon. My poor neighbours…I like your strategy though!