How to make adult (mum) friends ??

[Rainbowstr]

So I have 2 school aged boys and I just find it so hard/awkward the small talk at school with other mums- I am an older mum, 40, we have recently moved to a smallish town (where a lot of ppl know everyone), I always compare myself to others, why do they have lots of friends, and find it easy to chat to anyone.. I also work from home which doesn't help and have a very unsociable husband :( My kids also hardly ever get asked on playdates, I wonder if it is all linked. Any tips!! It feels so silly as in my 20s + early 30s I was so social and always had lots of friends.

Invite some kids to your house. Invite parent to come in for coffee on drop or pick up. Even if they dont it breaks the ice at the school gate.
Or join a fundraising group for school. Scouts etc. Smile say hello. Look for other mums not in the click.

I made two lifelong mates at the school gates but we found common ground that wasn’t just that we had children in the same school year.

People tend to stick to safer subjects first, you just need to trust your gut as you negotiate the safer rather tedious stuff as to when you can find out what someone is really like.

I don’t know anybody who made lifelong friends at the school gates
usually it’s just small talk, bitchiness or nonchalance
The lifelong friends I made were at school and at work or people I just happened to meet
i wouldn’t count on the school mums
i would get a part time job or volunteering you are more likely to meet people there