10th Wedding Anniversary

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It's not until next May, but we've been thinking about how, or if at all to mark the occasion. We normally just get each other a card, then he mentioned about renewing our vows ( this last year has been completely horrid, I have stage four cancer and a pretty poor prognosis) Im just not sure he'd have suggested it if I didnt have cancer, it's not something I'd considered, but maybe it would be nice? I dont know. Any other ideas? How did you celebrate yours, if you did?

Honestly? My immediate thought is that renewing vows, particularly the “until death do us part” bit might have the opposite to intended feel, given your prognosis. You’d have to be very sure you were in the right frame of mind to say and hear the words. I’d be more inclined to do something entirely relaxing, just the two of you, like a holiday to a destination that’s always meant something to you both.

We had a long weekend away. Dh bought me an eternity ring and I bought him a watch

Vow renewal always makes me wonder if one or other has been unfaithful, and as someone else said in your situation the vows might not be pertinent.

I really hope you get well though and I think you should enjoy a lovely holiday away somewhere together.

If money runs to it go all out, we went to Mauritius for our 25th anniversary and it was so lovely.

I also had cancer on my tenth wedding anniversary and we renewed our vows and had afternoon tea with family friends at our house. I’m sorry you are very unwell at the moment, it’s such a difficult thing to face. One thing, I had the party planned, was looking forward to it but then read threads on here about how people think it’s only something you do when you marriage is wobbly! It made me feel a bit silly and made me worry about what everyone would be thinking. Then I remembered fuck it! I’ve had a horrible few years and I want something to look forward to. So do what you want to do. You don’t have to involve anyone but you and DH or you can invite all of the world and it’s nobody’s business but yours 🙂

We had a toddler, info y think we did anything.

My parents had the kids for a night and we went back to the hotel where we spent our wedding night! Was so lovely to reminisce.

Thanks everyone. Something to think about!

@SaracensMavericks ah, that sounds lovely - we can't do that as the hotel we married at has been flattened to a car park lol.

@GoddamReylos Sorry to hear you had it too. Marriage defo not wobbly. It would be nice to do something to mark the occasion, yours sounds like my kind of thing. Thanks :-)

The idea of going away for a long weekend certainly appeals for sure, but was thinking it'd be nice to involve my kids, theres four of them, the three older ones were there when we got married, but not the youngest. Maybe I'll just splash out on a big holiday instead 😂