My partner is the most fantastic person in the world I have ever met. We are both early fifties and met in January this year. We are making plans to combine households next year.
He is a very outdoorsy and a teacher at a private school who has his kids with him most of his generous school holidays as his ex, their mum works.
I work in a standard 9-5 job mainly from home but one day in the office and get 25 days annual leave whereas he gets 25 weeks or thereabouts per annum. I earn three times as much as him (partially relevant)
He's off doing some wonderful things with his kids during half term and I'm wishing I could be there with him. When we live together my kids (older teens) will benefit from being able to join their adventures but I'm worried I'm going to feel left out and shackled to the corporate grindstone while they go on loads of adventures up hills, to the seaside, rambling, mooching.
How on earth do I wobble my head and be cool with being the financier but not actively involved? I really don't want these negative envious feelings to sour our most wonderful relationship.
Not an easy one to acknowledge but prefer to before it starts being an issue.