Broken after tonight

[Bluelilac]

Went to bed at half nine.

DD (3 months) woke at 130. Settled again at 230.

DS (nearly 3) woke at 3.

DS woke again at 4 and half 4.

Me getting up and down to DS woke DD again. Fed her and now waiting for her to go back to sleep.

Wonderful 😩😩

Oh @Bluelilac that is rough. I found being sleep deprived the worst thing about having a little one. No advice, just solidarity and hoping tonight is better for you

Do you have a partner? He need to get up now with the kids and let you have an hour till he goes to work.

By the time he woke they were both sleeping soundly 😂 DS still asleep!

Sounds rough but do you not shake him awake and tell it's his turn? For today I'd just put the TV on and try to rest during the morning and then be as active as possible this aft to tire them out. Go to bed with them tonight so you get a decent stretch before they start waking.

Your partner should be helping, and why is the 3 year old waking at night? Is there a reason? As most 3 year olds shouldn’t be waking in the night unless poorly or something. I know I’ll get shot down here.. some just don’t sleep, yep I get that, but maybe there’s a reason and it’s easily sorted so at least the 3 year old sleeps soundly! Lack of sleep is rubbish.

No idea why he woke.

I do agree DH should have helped but he just didn’t wake up and I’d have had to walk past DS room to wake him. Anyway it still woke me up.

The early years of sleep deprivation were hell, I can still remember that mind numbing, asleep on my feet feeling. I can promise you it gets better the older they get (unless you get a particularly bad Sleeper 😕) before you know it they will be lazy teenagers that you can't get out of bed!

Does the 3 year old often wake or was it a one off?
wake partner up next time. I’ve had to before. Actually sometimes in our house my partner is the one that hears the kids and I sleep through it 🤣

There’s no point waking DH, it would take longer than settling DS. He never used to wake but it’s happened a few times recently.

I have a similar age gap with my older 2 and remember these days! It's soo hard. They once woke 11 times between them in one night. Now they are 11 and 8 and it feels like a lifetime ago! They're still early risers, but at least they can make their own cereal and turn on the TV! It gets better OP, even if you're not sure how you'll survive right now.

Now I've got a 2yo who thought 4am was an acceptable wake up time...

Years ago Dh and l were having the ‘you never get up in the night argument’

In the end we put a notebook outside DD’s room and recorded who was getting up.

22 times in one night was the record, and we were both getting up!

I feel your pain..... for some reason my 5, 6 and 8yr olds have all started waking at night. 5yr old has a cold so her blocked nose is waking her i think, 6yr old is having nightmares and 8yr old has additional needs so never sleeps well but even by his standards the last week has been rough. DP works nights so its all on me.

Can you have a chilled day in front of the tv? Yesterday my 3 entertained themselves whilst i rested on the sofa because i was to exhausted to do much else. Or all nap together this afternoon?

@Bluelilac maybe DS is too hot/ too cold? Had he kicked the covers off & then got cold?

I know I am, can you try a different combination of pjs & covers etc

Are you on mat leave? Hopefully you are! A lazy day ahead for you all if possible, with an afternoon nap for everyone and takeaway for tea?