Baby blues ? PND ?

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I had DS a week Ago. I already have a 23 month old son. I feel really low and tearful almost all day every day: I feel guilty that I’m not able to do as much with my toddler. My DH is not great mentally atm so is constantly in a mood and shouting at toddler. He is self employed and we can’t afford him not to work so has been back at work since I was 4 days post c section. I do love my baby but at same time I just keep thinking all I want to do is just take my toddler and run away from it all. I’m worried this is dreadful as when toddler was newborn I barely let him out of my arms never mind have thoughts of just leaving. Just looking to see if there’s any advice anyone can give or even a bit hope that it will get better

Just offering a hand hold for you xx
Your feelings are normal at this point post partum and you will feel better soon
Do you have your mum or MIL or someone to come and help you with your toddler?
Does your toddler go to daycare or could they go to grandmas for a couple of hours for a few days?
Speak to your health visitor
Sending you hugs lovey xx

Oh and being up and awake at 3 or 4 in the morning is the worst time for feeling low as it feels like you're the only person awake!

Thanks for your reply.

No he doesn’t go to daycare or anything. I usually work part time and juggle childcare between my mum, myself and husband. I can’t afford to pay for childcare. Tbh I think I would feel worse sending him away. My mum and mil both work but have managed to help me out a bit. For the past year or so it’s mainly just me and my toddler most days. I feel my husband has no patience for him at all. I think what’s making me worry is that I feel so down and feel like I just want to pack him up and go away from it all then I feel guilt for my newborn. It’s not his fault.

can you talk to your husband about how you feel and ask him to spend some quiet time with your toddler, reading with him, or watching TV with him for a little while?