My mother comes from a large family of siblings.
The youngest is an uncle, I think there is something not quite right about him. Something undiagnosed. Maybe an undiagnosed asd or aspergers. There's something not quite right with him but I don't know what it is. The country of birth and the time he was born in, it probably would have been hidden and no diagnosis was sought.
He never met anyone or had kids of his own. He eventually became a carer for their own mother, my grandmother. The last few years she was in a nursing home. I don't know who paid for that. I suspect maybe my aunt's assets. She had a lot of land from her late husband and she sold it all. Probably got a lot of money. I don't know.
When she died, my uncle got an inheritance. I don't know what he got. He got the family home anyways. I don't know if there was any other inheritance. Some of my aunt's thinks he got some money because their mother selling a lot of land. I reckon if my granny had a lot of money, a lot of it would have been spent on nursing home care.
Anyways a terrible situation developed in the years after my granny's death. He became lonely and he started to phone a lot of his siblings. I suppose for company. I think his calls were maybe somewhat too much. A lot of his siblings went against him for this. There's only maybe about two or three of them who only keeps in contact very briefly with him. But only on their terms. So maybe about once a month. My mother is one of them. My mother is only ever keeping in touch with him in the hope of getting a cash payout from him. That's it. She views him as someone who is rich because he got the inheritance. Anytime they do chat on the phone she never asks him directly for money. She gives him vague hints of financial issues in like telling him of a broken down appliance whether true or not in the hope of getting a cash payment from him.
Whatever sort of an inheritance he got all them years ago, it's got to be gone. That's what I reckon anyways. He is receiving a disability payment from the state and that's means tested. I really don't think he has the money that they think he has. Either that or he has loads of cash stacked and hidden under his mattress. I find this hard to believe though.
This brings me to my current situation.
My mother received a call from one of her sisters last week or the week before. A sister in law is trying to organise a visit. My aunt has a vague plan of coming to her home county but when she does come she can only stay at the other end of the county with the sister in law. She has an underlying condition and maybe she may not be able to do a lot of visiting. She would like to see my mother but it would involve my mother travelling to her. My mother doesn't drive. Already my mother took interest in this vague plan and she would like me and my partner to help her and drive her.
So far there plans are only vague. I reckon nothing will come of it.
This brings me to my issue.
My mother sometimes has treated me appalling because I am the wrong sex for her preference. She always treated my brothers better than me. She only tolerates me but I live on edge for her next flip and outburst of anger and twisted rage towards me. She flips over very little and I am always her trigger.
She has a sister who is not much better and her sister facilitated much worse abuse to one of her daughter's when she was small. It's worse and I don't need to type it here.
Basically my mother's family and blood line are evil and dirty. That's all they are. I don't want to sit at a table in a restaurant with my mother or any of my aunts and sit with hypocrites. What they are doing to their younger brother is appalling. Some of them don't talk to him because he's lonely and others only talk to him in the hope of getting money out of him. Another aunt was successful many times of getting hundreds out of him. If my mother wants to meet her sister, she can travel herself and without me and keep me out of it but she probably won't be able to travel herself.